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Please give instructions for taking it.
 
LisaX last decade
1 drop or pellet dissolved in 250 ml spring water, and take a teaspoon.
 
sameervermani last decade
Please find this rubric: Fear of calling people by their names. That specific thing, accompanied by avoidance of eye contact, dislike of speaking in general, aversion to formality in general (My husband told me, “You don’t have any manners,” and he’s right, I’m afraid of them, it inexplicably gives me an inner shudder of horror), dislike of hearing one’s own voice, identity and recognition issues (not so much a lack of it as a troubled relationship to it), a feeling of an unbridgeable separation from society, estrangement from family, shame and guilt over these symptoms which only exacerbates it. That’s what we’re looking for. I obviously really needed the Carcinosin, and I crave even more of it because it makes me feel better on the inside, but it has become clear that, like everything else I’ve taken, it doesn’t even touch that stuff, it only makes the pain more bearable. I don’t think what I’m looking for will be anything really common, it seems logically like it can’t be, because one of the main causes of my troubles is that I strike people as odd.

Where I am now: Heartache and despair. I was feeling very happy up until Monday, and then my situation suddenly changed and my happiness went with it, so what I thought was an increase in my overall level of happiness was actually dependent on circumstances. I think I’ve just had my heart broken again. I had a friend, someone I was starting to grow close to, and even starting to trust a little. The last thing he said to me, as he left on Monday, was that they would be back later, or at least call. Now he has totally disappeared and will not return my calls. Totally unexpected, no explanation, no sign that things were going badly. I feel like I’m supposed to learn a lesson from it, but all the meanings I can think of are bleak and hopeless. A lesson in futility. I’ve been crying a lot, sobbing violently whenever I think about it.

One effect of the Carcinosin is that it made me feel more open and trusting, more like reaching out to people, but that ended badly. There’s no point in reaching out if there’s nothing there. And there isn’t, it’s always an illusion, always a false promise.

I would like permission to take a strong dose of Ignatia, please. I have taken up to 200c in the past, and it seems to help with stuff like that. I’m hurting too much, I have to do something about it.
 
LisaX last decade
Have you ever taken Thuja ?
 
sameervermani last decade
Yes, recently. A couple of remedies back, remember? I took the 30c, I couldn't tell that it did anything at all. Should I try again?
 
LisaX last decade
No, don't take it again.

I would consider Medorrhinum now.

Have you ever taken this one ?
 
sameervermani last decade
No, I've never taken it.
 
LisaX last decade
Please take a single dose of Medorrhinum 200c then, and report back in 2 weeks.
 
sameervermani last decade
I took a mystery remedy once, and I'm not certain that it wasn't Medorrhinum, in fact that's my main guess for what it was, but I don't know, nor do I know the potency. I'm certain that it wasn't any of the other things you've told me to take. There is no way now for me to find out what that was. So my question is, if that WAS a high potency of Medorrhinum, then will it harm me to take it again in a possibly lower potency? The mystery remedy was beneficial, with no negative side effects, but worked only on specific symptoms.
 
LisaX last decade
It will not harm in 200c even if higher was taken.

Go ahead with the dose.
 
sameervermani last decade
If I order from Helios (which I prefer because their prices are reasonable)I will have to order a 2nd remedy at the same time. Any suggestions?
 
LisaX last decade
med 1m
 
sameervermani last decade
It has been 19 days and I'll give a report soon but I get these headaches, they're unendurable, I've had one since yesterday, I get nausea with them, kind of a whole-body nausea. The only thing that helps is if I lie down in a dark room and stop trying to think or pay attention to anything. It can be hard to stop thinking. I can't think clearly with my head hurting like this but it just makes me try harder which doesn't help. I feel like I have a fever but I don't, it's an illusion.

Basically the remedy acted like it was doing something, it pushed a lot of emotional pain to the surface over a long period of time just like the Carcinosin did, and I could feel it moving some energy around, but now I don't know what has changed, it must be really subtle. I don't feel any more inclined to speak than I did before, I'm in a cynical mood but not unhappy. Except for the headache. I'm confused, I wish I could give a good answer but I can't right now. I'll try again later.
 
LisaX last decade
Hi Lisa,

We should wait for 1 more week.

Sameer
 
sameervermani last decade
No, this didn't do it. I feel nervous and jumpy and I still can't speak.
 
LisaX last decade
Describe what you mean by nervous and jumpy ? Any other odd feeling or sensation that you might have noticed ?

So, this problem with people , is it worse with CERTAIN people ? I want to know if it becomes a causeless aversion to 'certain' people ?
 
sameervermani last decade
What I mean by nervous and jumpy is that I am sensitive to noise and movement around me, especially if it is sudden. I have a young son who has been home for the holidays for 2 weeks and he's rambunctious and makes a lot of noise and pounces on me and it puts me on edge.

Also I am oversensitive to people, the way they speak to me and the way they look at me. If people are harsh or if they yell at me it sends shock waves through me.

Yes, I have a causeless aversion to certain people. And yes, my problems are worse with some people than others. But also, it is MOST people, to varying degrees. There are very few people I feel comfortable with.
 
LisaX last decade
Dear Lisa,

I am sorry to hear of your anxieties.

In my opinion, you would benefit more by seeing a counsellor who could help you work thru various psychological issues, than by dodgy medicine.

Best wishes
 
YodellingYogi last decade
Hi LisaX,

Please take a dose of Natrum Carb LM1 from a 30 ml teat dropper bottle.

3 drops in 250 ml spring water, and take a spoon from there.

Report in 5 days please.

Sameer
 
sameervermani last decade
Ok, good. I don’t think the Medorrhinum has even stopped working yet. I need to attempt a description of it, but I’ve been putting it off because it’s confusing.

When I first took it I thought it was going to be mild. The dreams I had on the first night were not emotionally charged, they were philosophical lectures on the importance of authenticity and simplicity, style vs. substance, so I thought that was what the remedy was going to be about. But then over the next few days it pushed a lot of emotional pain to the surface. Mainly a lonely, forsaken feeling which had nothing to do with circumstances, and which stood out as clearly delusional but I still felt it. Also I had an image of being alone in an underground prison.

The next thing, a few days later, is that my hands felt shaky and I kept having urges to shake my arms and head around, I guess to shake the tension out, or something like that. Or like I was trying to shake off something in my relationship to the space around me.

Throughout this whole time, my differentness and solitude only stood out more clearly, and I wanted to be alone. I wanted to meditate, I wanted to just move in my own direction. I often had the experience of wishing to be an animal, to be wild and free and never have to speak or be civilized. I would want to be a large, beautiful, dangerous mammal like a tiger or a wolf.

So, it’s like a door has opened, but one that leads not toward the world but to some expansive solitary place. Instead of straightening me out, I’m more resolved in my bentness.

Another thing that I’ve been aware of lately, it started before but has become clearer, it’s hard to explain but I hope I can:
Just in the last few months I’ve taught myself to play guitar, because I thought it would be therapeutic, and I play and sing a little every day. It’s important to me to use my voice, but I rarely do. I have tried playing for a few other people that I’m close to, but I get nervous and my voice comes out differently. Sure, that’s normal. But lately it makes me angry. Not angry at other people or even at myself, but angry at the barrier. Even when I’m alone, I can’t sing without feeling anger, like I’m fighting against something. And I think that’s where it echoes back to the dreams I had on the first night. I find that my voice and mannerisms are controlled by the presence of other people, like I’m a puppet. It isn’t about how well or how badly I’m performing, I don’t even care, even if I were performing brilliantly, if I were doing it for their benefit it would feel the same. I just want to feel my own will, to experience the internal freedom of finding and using my authentic voice, and using it in my own way, regardless of who is present. That has to come first, it’s a prerequisite to being able to cope with people.

But also I feel very guilty because there is no change in the social anxiety symptoms, and I feel like I’m weak and selfish and lazy for not being able to control it.

So, tell me whether or not I need the 1m.
 
LisaX last decade
It's not like there's no improvement. The ability to play music in front of other people is definitely an improvement, even if I get nervous. There is something. But the simple, direct forms of social interaction (such as looking at people and calling them by their name) still terrify me, I still can't even imagine being able to do it.
 
LisaX last decade
So, tell me does the below resonate with you ?

'Feels like a wild animal which is locked in'

Sameer
 
sameervermani last decade
I think so. But I'm not really clear on what I would do if I weren't locked in.
When I see people behaving animalistically, like making a lot of noise or behaving in overtly sexual ways in public, I feel contempt and superiority; don't know if that would contradict that or not.
 
LisaX last decade
Hi LisaX,

We should go to Germanium Metallicum LM1. Please order it in 30 ml teat dropper bottle. You can order LM2 as well.
 
sameervermani last decade
Ok, sounds good, thanks.
 
LisaX last decade
There certainly is a lot of interesting and evocative animal language here. Are you familiar with the Sensation method and its focus on determing which Kingdom your remedy should come from? It sounds like you have some familiarity with that case-taking style.
 
brisbanehomoeopath last decade

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