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Sexual Desire/Erections

Hi! I'm a 27 year old male and am having some issues with getting and maintaining an erection. Recently married and wanting to be pleasing to my wife, but can't seem to get excited physically, definitely am mentally, emotionally excited, but seems like physically my body does not respond. My wife tries everything to get me excited and I feel bad because I'm able to please her, but she can't seem to get anything out of me and then she feels like I'm not interested in her or don't find her exciting. I'm 5'7" pale, thin. Probaly over masturbation from my teendage years, but really never got strong or good erections. It always took me a long time to get one and then it wouldn't last long, (premature ejaculation and very little of it). It could be an issue of circulation. Tend to be very mentally active (overactive). Can be apathetic, indifferent to life at times, not much will. Have never been very macho (maleish so to speak), and have always had strong emotions, cries easily, very emotional. Fear, worry, anxiety. Easily offended. The littlest thing can upset me or make me feel like I'm worthless or can't do anything right, that I may as well give, forget life, I can't get it right, so why bother trying. Feel inadequate. Tendency at times to overreact, blow things out of proportion, thinking that someone is upset with me when they aren't, get frustrated easily. Any thoughts? Or any more info needed? Thanks so much for your input.
 
  Herbalguy451 on 2005-11-30
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Please submit your complain in this following format

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5. current complain-from how many days-
6. current medicine you are taking
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11. Nature of working
12. desire and aversion of food
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Dr. Deoshlok Sharma
 
deoshlok last decade
Age - 27

Sex - Male

Country - United States

Climate - Recently moved to a down where it's very rainy, used to live where there were mountains, no mountains here, flat, open area, windy.

Current complain-from how many days- Been many years since I've really been able to get an strong erection. Always had premature ejaculation as long as I can remember. Over masturbation during teenage years.

Current medicine you are taking - Not taking any medication.

Family back ground - Family history, Lupus, Diabetes, one case of alcoholism, grandmother who is of very sound mind now, in her younger years was insanely jealous at one point in her younger years, even expressed that she wanted to kill the person who was competition for her in a relationship, which of course she didn't do, but was somewhat manical about it. I too have had jealousy issues, not to that degree though.

Nature of working - Had been working in Car Sales at a dealership for 7 years, got laid off and haven't been working for awhile now. Had dreams of working there every night for awhile, so must have been on my mind more than I thought.

Food - desires/aversion -Like carbohydrates, breads, cereals, juices. Have been craving orange juice lately. Don't like vinegar, the smell especially, but also not the taste.

Mind-behavior - Jealous in love. Tend to sit around and wallow when something goes wrong. Self-pity. Have a tendency to overreact at times, get angry. Get very frustrated when things don't go right. Despair during difficult circumstances, tendency to be lonely, am somewhat of a loner. Somewhat indifferent to improve my condition, lack of desire to make changes, mentally want things to improve, but lacking the physical desire to take the action. Lack of will. Easily led by others. Others can influence my decisions very easily and then I vacillate between doing one thing or another, because I want to please everyone and don't know what the right thing is to do. Indecision, fear of making the wrong decision. Fear of failure. Fear of death. Fear of dogs.

Sleeping always makes my complaints better. Mental/emotional are sometimes so powerful I have to sleep to deal with them. Depression.

Insomnia has been better lately, but hadnt been able to get to sleep till 2 or 3:00 at times. Have always had trouble getting to sleep at night most of my life, usually need to EAT something so my stomach is full to sleep well.

Again, have the mental/emotional sexual desire, but without erection or physical excitement.
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Thanks so much for the help! I may not have given enough information but if there is something specific you need, please let me know. Much appreciated.
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
please continue agnus castus 6c thrice in a day for a month.
dr.d.sharma
 
deoshlok last decade
Read through your post and you have the constitution of China Officialis.
As well as a Tuberculinum miasm. Read up on both of these and see if they fit your personality before you start swallowing anything suggested here, damage can result. Lets know how you get on, post back for more details of case management.
Regards
 
parachute last decade
Thanks everyone for your help!

Parachute,

Looked over those remedies and there are definitely many of the mental aspects for both remedies. China has many like Apathetic, indifferent, stubborn, fixed ideas, sensitive and very touchy and Tuberculinum, has the depressed, hopeless, anxious, changing moods, every triffle irritates, fear of dogs. One thing in particular mentally that I've been dealing with lately is overreacting to things. Have never been very grounded, take things very personally, sensitive to the least criticism, and I really want to get some help with that as well. I will also read into things and make them worse than they are, blow them out of proportion and end up causing conflict where there was none. I had a friend tell me one time, "Steve, the problem is, you're so intuitive that you pick up on the littlest thing, but the problem is that yes i feel that way, but you make it so much bigger than it really is." Can feel very bad or weak, just being in the presence of someone who is negative or I get bad vibes from so to speak, just very sensitive to outside influences. Take on other people's emotions and make them bigger within myself to the point of making myself feel so bad, I get hopeless, discouraged, depressed, unhappy, wanting to sleep all the time, not do anything. Wanting my life to improve, but taking no action. As a kid I used to wet the bed every night up until age 12. Was never happy as a child, my grandparents told me that I was always so serious. At five years old I was talking to my grandparents about money issues and other things I heard my parents talking about. Also my dad told me that I would often sit on the sidelines, watching other people having fun and wishing I could do it too, but never feeling confident enough that I could actually do it. Also was never very motivated. It was never "dad I want to do this, please please." It was more like, "Dad, do you think "I" (little me) could do something like that like the rest of the kids?" And to this day I'm still like that to an extent. Have ambitions but don't have the self-confidence or self-worth that I can accomplish it or succeed. My friend also told me that I need to get a "SPINE" and stand up for myself for things I believe in, to get some convictions, I'm always so worried about what other people are feeling, I want to keep peace and will give in to make others happy, just so there is no conflict.

Appreciate your help so much!
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Also, something else that I didn't mention that is probably important, but didn't want to appear crazy. I've always been very intuitive/psychic and had been doing some readings online for people (with a lot of success)after losing my job, but also began not sleeping well, not getting to bed until like 2-3 in the morning. Then one day, was walking and felt really tingly, dizzy, and all of a sudden felt like I was going to come out of my body and die (May 18th). I grabbed onto the corner of the wall, holding on for dear life, kicking and screaming. But that was a pretty severe trauma (someone thought it was some kind of psychic attack), and have never been the same since then. Started getting dizzy a week later, feeling like things are moving even when I'm standing still. Laying down on the bed, it felt like the bed was moving up and down like a see saw, or like I was on an airplane experiencing turbulence, or like on a boat that was on turbulent water. Just feel really light, like part of me isn't here, like I'm detached or something. All this also happened after I had seen a homeopath who recommended I take Nux Vomica 200c (one dose one night) and Carb Veg 1,000c the next night (one dose).

Sometimes when I'm in a vehicle and traveling and then stop and then go to walk, it feels like everything is still moving as fast as before. One time I was driving along 70 mph and had to stop quick cause of traffic in front of me and when I stopped really quick it felt like even though the car had stopped, that I was still moving forward really fast. Was having anxiety, panic attacks, but not anymore. Mostly just feel really light, like light as air. Even when sitting I feel like I'm moving around, or my energy is anyway. It seems to be much worse since it's been colder out, cause I was feeling pretty good when it was 60 and then it got down to the 20's and seem to feel worse (lighter). Solid things sometimes seem wavy, or like the walls will seem to move, or the floor, sometimes feel like I'm falling through the bed or through the floor. If I'm standing and rock back and fourth on my feet it feels like the whole room is rocking back and fourth, almost like my sense of place or position within the universe has been altered. Could be equilibrium or vertigo issues. Eating definitely helps. Feel hungry all the time. Lost some weight. Hear a high pitch frequency most of the time, sometimes sounds like it's in the ears, but other times sounds like it's in the brain. I know I probably need to see a homeopath, but I feel like I'm already messed up somewhat from working with the previous one, so I would appreciate any thoughts or suggestions you can give.
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Another way to describe it, is you know that feeling when you get when you are in an elevator and then the elevator comes to a stop and you feel that pressure change or that "SWOOP" feeling. That's how I'm feeling all the time. And it does get worse when I'm higher up/higher elevations. Lack of sleep also makes it worse. With lack of sleep start feeling like things are more surreal. Sometimes as if my feet are not touching the ground, as if I'm moving really fast and my body can't keep up, and sometimes almost fall.
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
in my experiance plz use the following only for one week only

damiana Q (M.T)
20 drops in a fresh water when going to bed at night.

believe me this solved the problems of many people.
 
hizbulla last decade
Hi Steve,
read up on Phosphorus, this sounds like you very much, then post back after, and we will discuss the most appropriate action.
Regards
 
parachute last decade
Hi Parachute,

Yes, there is definitely a lot that fits me with Phosphorus:

Great sensitivity to external impressions to light, sound, odors, touch, electrical changes, thunder-storms. Human Barometer! That is totally me, my body changes with the weather!! If it's cold outside, I'm cold, no matter how warm I make it in my house. If it's hot outside, I'm hot. Weather changes totally aggravate my condition. Craves ice cold drink. Sometimes I prefer to eat cold food rather than hot. Emptiness in the chest (most of the body feels empty). It also says heaviness of the chest, and I used to have heaviness of the chest, but not anymore.

Anxious, fears being alone at night! Fearfulness, as if something were creeping out of every corner. QUICKLY PROSTRATED BY UNPLEASANT IMPRESSIONS. TIMID and IRRESOLUTE. EXCITABLE, IMPRESSIONABLE. Melancholy. Disinclined to work, study, converse. WEARY OF LIFE. APATHY, indifference even toward her own children (for me, toward my own family, friends, etc.). WANTS SYMPATHY. Great tendency to start (I do in my sleep and also get startled easily from noises, as if I were in HYPER MODE - FIGHT OR FLIGHT all the time). OVER SENSITIVE TO EXTERNAL IMPRESSIONS. Dread of death when alone. Restless, fidgety.

Easily angered and becomes behement, actually gets beside himself with anger and suffers physically in consequence. At other times anxious and restless, espicially in the dark and at twilight.

My symptoms are usually worse at night (and phosphorus has that, especially with the dying, and if I'm alone too, definitely feel worse), and they are always better, much better on FIRST waking up, though it usually lasts maybe a minute or two, but when I very first wake up from sleep I feel VERY good. Also something else is that the least pressure leaves impressions / indentations in my skin. Great sense of urgency in urination. If I'm drinking enough water, I usually have to go every hour. Only during the day though, not at night. Also, my symptoms did get MUCH worse today when I got upset in my relationship. And again, turned a 1 or 2 (with 10 being the worst) situation into a bad one, because I perceived it to be really bad and made it so big and started getting really upset and feeling awful. Almost as if I have no ability to cope with any stress whatsoever. The least amount of stress can destroy me or ruin my whole day, sometimes my whole week.

Thanks so much for your help, much appreciated. Phophorus definitley seems like it's very fitting for me! Allen's notes especially on Phosphorus in the mentals describe me to a T. With the severe depression, sadness, apathy, indifference etc.

Any ideas on what potency to try. I do tend to be very sensitive to things and usually either get a quick/immediate reaction or none at all. One extreme or the other, no inbetween, similar to the rest of my life (extremes).

Thanks again for everything,

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
One other thing I forgot to mention is that when I'm worse my eyes are usually bloodshot. Also I realize now that even before any of this began, when I was tired at night, I would tend to be somewhat spacey too. Usually it was always 10:30 on the dot that I would feel it. I have noticed certain times that I feel worse with the dizziness, lightness, feeling like I'm going to come out of my body. Normally as it approaches noon time it can start anywhere from 10:00 to 12:00. Then in the afternoon, feel worse from 3 or 4 till about 6. Then sometimes 8 or 9 til 11:00. Not all the time at those times, but just a few times I've noticed that seem to be common and worse.

Also a lot of numbness / falling asleep of the pinky and ring finger of the left hand and that part of the hand below the fingers. Usually when I'm resting my left arm on my elbow or just have it on the desk to type for a period of time. Letting the arm hang down by my side (while at the computer) immediately brings back feeling (poor circulation I guess).

Thanks,

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Hi Steve,
As you are ungrounded, I suggest a low potency, 12c Phosphorus to begin, Take a few drops or granules, once at night, once in the morning, untill you feel a reaction, (maybe need only to take it once) take no coffee or mint toothpast for a while, these can antidote.
Let us know what the effects are in a few days/weeks.
Regards
 
parachute last decade
Hi Parachute,

Thanks for the reply! Will get Phosophorus 12c today and start with the first dose tonight and tomorrow. Will let you know, thanks again for all the help.

Blessings,

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Hi Parachute,

Took 3 drops last night, definitely noticed a lot of reaction in the head area. Like pressure in the head, somewhat like a sinus headache, pressure. Headache. Feeling as if my brain would stop working. Had trouble sleeping until after 3. And felt like I was starting to go crazy from not sleeping. All of these symptoms I've had before at times. And had more fear last night that I would die. Also noticed some heat flashes, like at times, laying down to sleep I was too warm and couln't sleep, but not for long. Think I'm going to stick to the one dose and let you know how it goes from here.

Thanks,

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
P.S. Forgot to mention that I had a potentially overeactive situation about an hour after I took the Phosphorus and I didn't react to it like I normally would, so thumbs up on that.

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Hi Parachute,

Hope you are doing well. Wanted to post another update. Yesterday had another mild episode of feeling like I was going to die or come out of my body, as if I were being sucked out or something or my energy was leaving or coming out. Didn't last long and wasn't nearly as bad as the first original time. Had slept pretty good the previous night, but last night didn't get to sleep until after 4:30 or so. Some of it is just fear of letting go, like, "Am I going to wake up again if I goto sleep." Still not overreacting too much to stuff. Still have a tendency to feel though that people don't care if they aren't reasurring me that they like me/care about me etc. Also last night, same as the other night I couldn't sleep had like heat flashes and was almost too warm, though it passed. Seem to have less dizziness when looking out a window. Had some more random sweating of the hands (as if I was anxious). Which I was having too awhile back, but had gone away.

Also something I didn't mention is that I'm extremely sensitive to being on the computer, near a tv, like the geopathic stress or EMF really effects me. I can feel that I'm weaker just being around it. Used to be a huge movie buff and just don't even hardly watch any anymore because of being around the tv.

Whenever feeling worse always feel best laying down. Usually can't sleep unless I'm on my stomach. Pulse seems very weak in the evening, night (which that might be normal - lower cortisol?)and also seems to change rapidly based on my thoughts at times.

Had some dreams last night about some people I knew from high school, some were ones who were sort of friends and yet used to pick on me, make fun of me and also there was a girl that I really liked in the dream who didn't like me back. But neither the people who used to pick on me, nor the girl bothered me at all. I remember thinking that I wasn't interested in her anyway, and almost felt like I was above (not arrogantly) the other people and didn't let them bother me, didn't care what they thought of me.

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Also forgot to mention that my right ear did also kinda feel like something blocked it, which I've had before too. Before all this started, I had a lot of both ears being blocked and hardly being able to hear, like when you are going up the mountains or in an airplane and my ears wouldn't pop, and also a lot of sinus congestion.
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Hi Steve,
there will tend to be stuff from the past rising up to the consious part of the mind, let it pass by, it is part of the proccess. No need to repeat remedy yet, keep on trucking!!!.
regards
 
parachute last decade
Hi Parachute,

Thanks for the reply. Another quick update, noticed an increase in sex drive. Some feelings of low blood sugar that were not real easily alleviated (ie, eating didn't seem to help). Also at one point felt like what I was eating was going right through me as if I couldn't get full. Lots of flatulence (started yesterday). Still not able to get to sleep until after 4/5 in the morning and then sleeping through the day. Was having heat flashes again, either too hot or too cold, can't seem to get right temp to sleep. Still great fear of death (though even years back when I was somewhat "normal" heh I would be preoccupied with thoughts about death a lot, something I often thought about) and feel like I'm going to die. Sometimes reading the word death or die or anything to do with leaving the earth plane can trigger me into a state where I feel like I'm light going to come out of my body, get scared, etc. Also noticed that I started getting a little more mucous in my nose since the remedy, not a lot, but some. Had always had mucuous, but since this stuff began have had crusty, dried out nose/sinuses. Family history of BAD SINUS PROBLEMS.

Thanks,

Steve

P.S. Emotionally still doing better, haven't been so quick to react, take things personally. The other day started taking something personally and was ready to confront someone about it, but sat on it a bit and then turns out the other person was having a really bad day, so it wasn't me, but I hesitated and by not reacting to it, I didn't make things worse and also found out that it wasn't me.
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Sounds good, at least you are more in conroll than b4. But still a long way to go be patient.
Regards
 
parachute last decade
Thanks Parachute!

Yes, patience usually is a virtue of mine, unfortunately not when it comes to physical symptoms (or feelings/emotional issues/matters of the heart) :(

Sad to say, but I admit that I'm just like most americans who want "instant results." Frustrating for the people helping I know. So thanks for your patience with me :)

Thought of a few other things that may or may not be important down the line (before I forget them). In school used to get so nervous being in class and around other kids and that would affect my stomach, nausea/flatulence, having to urinate constantly and because of that, just a lot of tensing up, fear, worry, anxiety etc. This before my days of ANTI-DRUG and using the natural approach, I was practically consuming a pack a day of TUMS/ROLAIDS as if they were candy. I can't imagine how much good Aluminum I've got in my system . Just thought of that with the mentally unstable issue and just the whole fantasy/dream world, being ungrounded, in another reality.

Yesterday, noticed some sharp pains in my right eye, lasting only a few seconds and maybe only 4 or 5 times.

Okay, think that's it for now, will keep posted. Thanks again for the help!

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Shoot!! Almost forgot my main reason for posting back in the first place!

Wanted to tell you that on my dad's side, my grandfather before he passed away a couple years ago, (had lupus, lung issues, diabetes in his last days)was having these episodes of getting dizzy and blacking out. It happened to my dad a few times a few years ago. But my grandfather would be up in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom and then next thing he knew he would wake up and find himself on the floor. Had been taken to the hospital many times, but they could never figure it out.

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade
Hi Steve,
this latest info gives a picture of Arsenicum Album, which is used in the treatment of Lupus, and a great fear of death.
The difference between Phos and Ars is, Phos likes people,are very open, Ars is scared of them and is guarded, this is a very generalised way of looking at these two remedies. Look up Ars and see what you think, but they are much alike, don't go changing anything at this moment. Taking the right remedy will put everything right in time, Some remedies need to be taken and repeated for quite a long time to gain the maximum benefit, but only one, not multipules of this and that, although there are some who do practice this way. It is not the way I was taught, however this is a side issue, seems you are getting some benefit, keep posting.
regards
 
parachute last decade
Hi Parachute,

Thanks for the update. Just out of curiosity (trying to learn), it seems Aconite has more of the fear of death than Arsenicum or is it because Aconite is an acute versus chronic remedy?

Arsenicum does definitely have some of the indications:

Anxiety, exhuastion and restlessness, fear, fright, worry. Low vitality. Better from company. Oversensitive. Lacks courage. Melancholy. Suspicious. Extremely nervous. Despair of recovery. Fear of death and disease.

Albuminuria - lots of protein in the urine.

Hayfever. Used to get that all the time as a kid, up until about age 13/14 it was very serious and was putting vaseline type stuff in my eyes cause they were so badly swollen.

Also used to get Strep throat a lot as a kid up until age 12. Sometimes 2x a year. Of course didn't know any better and took lots of antibiotics.

Then started getting horrible acne as got older and of course was on antibiotics for that as well. Doing the Retin-A creams. Finally after high school, took Accutane and extremely high dose Vitamin A treatments and it cured my acne, well, we know it SUPPRESSED it. And that's when I started getting really dry, dry joints, skin, never sweat anymore, severe kidney pains, nausea/vomitting. That stuff really messed me up badly. Have never been the same since that. Then started getting chronic pain where the tendon in my groin are started tensing up (contracting/relaxing) over a period of days kept switching back and fourth between, tense, relaxed, tense relaxed, then it tensed up and stayed that way. And then over a period of months, slowly spread down my right leg, tensing the muscle up beyond my conscious control. Then again over months started in my left groin and spread down my left leg, then again over months went up to my left arm from the wrist up, could literally feel it traveling through my nerves, and then when done with that arm, went over to the right arm, same pattern over a period of months. Muscles would fatigue very easily, tense, contracted, wasn't able to tense them up (like if you were making a muscle to show off), and just remained constantly tensed, contracted all the time. Any stress, emotions definitely made my pain 10 times worse.

Back to Arsenicum - Tongue Coated white, mostly in the back and on the sides in the back.

Had lots of trouble sleeping again last night. Couldn't get to sleep till after 4:30 and maybe got 5 hours. Symptoms are definitely worse when I can't sleep like that. Around 4:20 or so I was going crazy and thought for sure I was going to die, ate something to help ground me, but felt for sure I was going to come out of my body. Laying on my back makes it worse, feel more afraid, feel better when I'm on my stomach. Still continuing to have moments in the evening where I'll just be sweating like mad from my hands, mostly my right hand. Always had clammy hands as a kid - nervousness, fear.

Symptoms are also worse when I have to go to the bathroom. Usually feel bad starting around 3:00. Today really had to urinate around that time badly, was driving and felt so bad, like I was going to come out of my body, going to the bathroom helped it a lot. Usually for me it will just come on suddenly where I get this GREAT URGE to go and I just have to go, usually can't hold it for long. Have always been that way though.

Last night also again got worse from 10:00 to 12:00, then was better until 4:00 when my body was exhuasted but couldn't sleep it's like my body is so physically tired, but my brain/mind doesn't get tired. Not even like thoughts are racing or anything, just that my brain doesn't seem to shut off. And I know that Phosphorus has a lot to do with the Brain, so I'm sure it aggravated/brought out this sleeping condition (which had been going on for months before all this began).

Still a kind of blocked sensation in the right ear. Had some in the left, but that went away pretty quickly. Used to get ear infections all the time as a kid, very painful, I believe more so in the right ear, but can't be 100% sure.

Being in water, showering, does seem to help me with the floaty, out of body or whatever it is type sensation.

Okay, I think that's all for now.

Hope you are doing well,

Steve
 
Herbalguy451 last decade

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