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Lose focus very easily
Hello Everyone,Unfortunately I have being losing my focus very easily lately at work and not getting much done and it is bothering me a lot. I was doing some research on the net and found this site, I entered symptoms on Remedy Finder and it gave me a medication that can help. Would someone please help me, the recommended medication was Aurum Metallicum. I went online to buy but it was asking me for Dilution.
Help please.
Thanks.
[message edited by JHGDL on Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:50:42 GMT]
JHGDL on 2012-02-03
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
Do not self-prescribe. Homoeopathy has many side effects associated with its use if you do not know what you are doing. The Remedy Finder is for purely acute situations, not chronic states, so use it for colds and flus not emotional or mental issues. Aurum is a medicine associated with depression and suicide. You do not want to play around with this remedy.
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
Thank You for the warning, I will not get it then. Do you recommend anything else, I could say that I have been a bit depressed also.
JHGDL last decade
Recommend based on what? The homoeopathic consultation usually takes 1-2 hours of information gathering and intense questioning. That process is long and it is hard work. Posting your case here may allow someone to prescribe for you. Based on what is described, I might see it as a case that would do well with me, but some people do better with other kinds of practitioners.
This is what my intake form looks like. Other people use different ways of getting information.
GUIDELINES FOR GIVING HOMOEOPATHIC CASE INFORMATION
It is important to describe all your problems in as much detail as you are able. One word answers and short sentences are not particularly helpful. Discuss each problem one at a time, providing (as a minimum level of detail) the following information.
1. What exactly happens?
2. Describe all sensations and pains. Each pain or sensation should be described in such a way that allows us to imagine having the same pain.
3. What causes the problem to get worse after it has started occurring?
4. What creates some relief for the problem?
5. What triggers the problem into occuring?
6. What time of the day or night does the problem occur?
7. When did the problem start? What was happening in your life at that time? Did some specific event or treatment take place just before the problem started?
Move from one problem to the next, doing the same thing. IT IS VITAL THAT YOU GIVE A COMPLETE PICTURE OF YOUR HEALTH BY PROVIDING ALL PROBLEMS YOU HAVE, EVEN IF NOT CONNECTED TO THE MAIN ONE, AND EVEN IF YOU CONSIDER IT OF LESS IMPORTANCE.
You should address each problem separately using the above 7 questions as a guide. Do not put all your complaints into each of the 7 questions. Discuss one problem at a time. If you have, for example, a headache with nausea, do each component separately too (what makes the head pain worse or better, what makes the nausea worse or better).
As well as this, please describe any traumatic incidents that have taken place in your life. Discuss anything that has had a lasting impact on you mentally, emotionally or physically.
Discuss the way that you manage or deal with your problems, or any problems that occur in your life.
Discuss any patterns you have noticed in your behavior especially concerning your disease.
Discuss any part of your life where you feel stuck or unable to change and grow, especially where this occurred around the beginning of your disease, or as the disease evolved.
Describe your childhood and the kind of environment you grew up in, with reference to your relationships with your family, your school experiences, and any serious childhood diseases.
If your earlier discussions have not mentioned these already, please describe:
1. The specific foods that you crave (not just like) or hate
2. The specific drinks that you crave or hate
3. What your sleep is like
4. How the weather and the temperature affects you
5. What kinds of things in the environment you are particularly sensitive to
6. What your general level of energy is like
7. What your level of sexual energy or desire is like
8. Describe your menstrual cycle
9. Also give these details
a) Body type and build
b) Skin colour and texture
c) Areas of the body tends to perspire on
d) Odour of sweat, body, stool, flatus, urine
e) Colour of stool, urine, sweat
10. Give any reactions to vaccines or medical drugs
This is what my intake form looks like. Other people use different ways of getting information.
GUIDELINES FOR GIVING HOMOEOPATHIC CASE INFORMATION
It is important to describe all your problems in as much detail as you are able. One word answers and short sentences are not particularly helpful. Discuss each problem one at a time, providing (as a minimum level of detail) the following information.
1. What exactly happens?
2. Describe all sensations and pains. Each pain or sensation should be described in such a way that allows us to imagine having the same pain.
3. What causes the problem to get worse after it has started occurring?
4. What creates some relief for the problem?
5. What triggers the problem into occuring?
6. What time of the day or night does the problem occur?
7. When did the problem start? What was happening in your life at that time? Did some specific event or treatment take place just before the problem started?
Move from one problem to the next, doing the same thing. IT IS VITAL THAT YOU GIVE A COMPLETE PICTURE OF YOUR HEALTH BY PROVIDING ALL PROBLEMS YOU HAVE, EVEN IF NOT CONNECTED TO THE MAIN ONE, AND EVEN IF YOU CONSIDER IT OF LESS IMPORTANCE.
You should address each problem separately using the above 7 questions as a guide. Do not put all your complaints into each of the 7 questions. Discuss one problem at a time. If you have, for example, a headache with nausea, do each component separately too (what makes the head pain worse or better, what makes the nausea worse or better).
As well as this, please describe any traumatic incidents that have taken place in your life. Discuss anything that has had a lasting impact on you mentally, emotionally or physically.
Discuss the way that you manage or deal with your problems, or any problems that occur in your life.
Discuss any patterns you have noticed in your behavior especially concerning your disease.
Discuss any part of your life where you feel stuck or unable to change and grow, especially where this occurred around the beginning of your disease, or as the disease evolved.
Describe your childhood and the kind of environment you grew up in, with reference to your relationships with your family, your school experiences, and any serious childhood diseases.
If your earlier discussions have not mentioned these already, please describe:
1. The specific foods that you crave (not just like) or hate
2. The specific drinks that you crave or hate
3. What your sleep is like
4. How the weather and the temperature affects you
5. What kinds of things in the environment you are particularly sensitive to
6. What your general level of energy is like
7. What your level of sexual energy or desire is like
8. Describe your menstrual cycle
9. Also give these details
a) Body type and build
b) Skin colour and texture
c) Areas of the body tends to perspire on
d) Odour of sweat, body, stool, flatus, urine
e) Colour of stool, urine, sweat
10. Give any reactions to vaccines or medical drugs
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
Thank you again,
It would be great to get a recommendation, and for that please allow me to thank you in advance. I would hate to have to take anti-depressants because of all the side-effects.
Well, I should start by saying that I a 30 year old man. I got married when I was 25 and divorced after two years of marriage, bad choices when young. Since then, I have been gaining weight(I am 6'1' and weight 280) and have been losing self-confidence little by little. I am currently on medication for high blood pressure, and albuterol for asthma.
To answer your questions:
1.- What has started to bother me a lot, is that, I am not getting my job done. I am a programmer and thrive on challenge, but lately there isn't much that will motivate me to research and get things done.
2.- I feel depressed when I see all my friends are married and/or in a relationship and I am not. Some of them even have kids, I would love to have kids but with the right person. I am a big fan of Comedies, when I watch a romantic comedy, I get depressed. I do not get a very good sleep, I dream a lot and wake up thinking of my dreams. Also I should mention that I spend a lot of time watching TV and don't do much of anything else.
3.- I start thinking that I might just grow old alone and that I will never get married and that there will not be a person that would want to be with me.
4.- I do not think there is much that helps to get rid of the feelings, I just continue to think about it and it makes me go crazy. This is when I get distracted very easily.
5.- Sometimes as I mentioned above, just by dreaming of my ex-wife. I get up upset and usually it turns into a bad day. Also when there is a social gathering and I am the only one that shows up with no girlfriend.
6.- Mostly after work is when it gets worst, unless I started the day by dreaming with my ex-wife.
7.- I believe it all started after my divorce, the fact that my ex-wife cheated makes it worst and I remember it and I get upset easily when remembering.
To mention other health problems, I suffer from high blood pressure, and have had asthma attacks in the past.
HBP got worst as I gained weight, like I mentioned before, there isn't much that motivates me to doing much about my weight or anything else.
Asthma problems, I have not had an asthma attack in about eight years now.
The biggest traumatic incident in my life has been my divorce. When I got married I taught that I was getting married for life and the day I married I would never divorce. It bothers me to talk about my divorce, specially under the circumstances that it happened. She cheated and it hurts a lot to say it, and when I found out, I wanted to work things and she said no. I begged and asked her in many different ways to continue our relationship and work on it, when people ask me about it, I lie and tell them that I ended everything and I did not wanted to work on the relationship.
I am like to think that I am great at what I do, when I have a problem at work, I research and work on it until I fix it. Or at least I use to. Now, when I have personal problem, I use to be a lot better at managing my emotions and react in a better way. Now when I get mad with someone, it takes a while for me to forget about it and I even get lightheaded.
Patterns that are very noticeable are: I lose focus extremely easy, and no longer continue what I started. I spend a lot of time in front of the TV, and don't do much of anything else. I use to fish a lot for fun, but now I do not feel like doing that either.
My biggest problem is when I start thinking of growing old all by myself, I think that there isn't anyone that would like to be with me, I start thinking of all my defects. And I cannot think of any of the positive things I can offer to a person.
Growing up, I did not have my dad with us. My mom and dad were not divorced or separated in any way. My dad lived in another country for other reasons. Other that that, I was a very intelligent kid, a straight A student. Until I started Jr High, I would not do my homework and just did not cared for a while. Eventually when I started college I started trying a little more and I graduated with a major in Computer Science.
1.- I am always craving foods like: burgers, Sushi(specially sashimi), french fries, mangoes, steaks(rare to medium-rare), and most the times I over do it. I cannot think of any foods that I hate, spicy foods do bother my stomach(heartburn).
2.- I enjoy freshly squeezed lemonade, I also enjoy hot tea, coffee with little sugar and a bold taste. I cannot stand root beer.
3.- I feel like I do not get rest from my sleep. I dream almost every day, and when the alarm goes off, I hot snooze may times before getting up.
4.- I rather it be cold all the time, hot weather makes me uncomfortable because I perspire extremely easy.
5.- I don't think there is something that bothers me about the environment.
6.- My energy levels are usually low, I take a multivitamin in the morning that contains several B vitamins and that helps. Also, as the day goes by, I take a vitamin C that also has B vitamins.
7.- My sexual energy level is high, I would like to have sex on a daily basis, but, I don't. I have not been with a girl in about three months and I do masturbate maybe twice a week or sometimes more. I do get very tired after, that is the reason I try not to do it much.
8.- N/A.
9.-
a) Big guy in the heavy side. 6'01' and 280lb.
b) Brown colour, I am Hispanic.
c) Pretty much all the body, and I do perspire easily.
d) I cannot go a day without showering, in summer time I will sometimes shower twice a day because I feel dirty and that I smell.
e) Colour of stool most of the time is light brown. Urine is usually light to darker yellow, it depends if I drink enough water. Colour of sweat, I have never noticed a colour, it is always transparent.
10.- I am not allergic to any medications.
Please let me know if you need more information, and really appreciate your help.
Thank You again.
It would be great to get a recommendation, and for that please allow me to thank you in advance. I would hate to have to take anti-depressants because of all the side-effects.
Well, I should start by saying that I a 30 year old man. I got married when I was 25 and divorced after two years of marriage, bad choices when young. Since then, I have been gaining weight(I am 6'1' and weight 280) and have been losing self-confidence little by little. I am currently on medication for high blood pressure, and albuterol for asthma.
To answer your questions:
1.- What has started to bother me a lot, is that, I am not getting my job done. I am a programmer and thrive on challenge, but lately there isn't much that will motivate me to research and get things done.
2.- I feel depressed when I see all my friends are married and/or in a relationship and I am not. Some of them even have kids, I would love to have kids but with the right person. I am a big fan of Comedies, when I watch a romantic comedy, I get depressed. I do not get a very good sleep, I dream a lot and wake up thinking of my dreams. Also I should mention that I spend a lot of time watching TV and don't do much of anything else.
3.- I start thinking that I might just grow old alone and that I will never get married and that there will not be a person that would want to be with me.
4.- I do not think there is much that helps to get rid of the feelings, I just continue to think about it and it makes me go crazy. This is when I get distracted very easily.
5.- Sometimes as I mentioned above, just by dreaming of my ex-wife. I get up upset and usually it turns into a bad day. Also when there is a social gathering and I am the only one that shows up with no girlfriend.
6.- Mostly after work is when it gets worst, unless I started the day by dreaming with my ex-wife.
7.- I believe it all started after my divorce, the fact that my ex-wife cheated makes it worst and I remember it and I get upset easily when remembering.
To mention other health problems, I suffer from high blood pressure, and have had asthma attacks in the past.
HBP got worst as I gained weight, like I mentioned before, there isn't much that motivates me to doing much about my weight or anything else.
Asthma problems, I have not had an asthma attack in about eight years now.
The biggest traumatic incident in my life has been my divorce. When I got married I taught that I was getting married for life and the day I married I would never divorce. It bothers me to talk about my divorce, specially under the circumstances that it happened. She cheated and it hurts a lot to say it, and when I found out, I wanted to work things and she said no. I begged and asked her in many different ways to continue our relationship and work on it, when people ask me about it, I lie and tell them that I ended everything and I did not wanted to work on the relationship.
I am like to think that I am great at what I do, when I have a problem at work, I research and work on it until I fix it. Or at least I use to. Now, when I have personal problem, I use to be a lot better at managing my emotions and react in a better way. Now when I get mad with someone, it takes a while for me to forget about it and I even get lightheaded.
Patterns that are very noticeable are: I lose focus extremely easy, and no longer continue what I started. I spend a lot of time in front of the TV, and don't do much of anything else. I use to fish a lot for fun, but now I do not feel like doing that either.
My biggest problem is when I start thinking of growing old all by myself, I think that there isn't anyone that would like to be with me, I start thinking of all my defects. And I cannot think of any of the positive things I can offer to a person.
Growing up, I did not have my dad with us. My mom and dad were not divorced or separated in any way. My dad lived in another country for other reasons. Other that that, I was a very intelligent kid, a straight A student. Until I started Jr High, I would not do my homework and just did not cared for a while. Eventually when I started college I started trying a little more and I graduated with a major in Computer Science.
1.- I am always craving foods like: burgers, Sushi(specially sashimi), french fries, mangoes, steaks(rare to medium-rare), and most the times I over do it. I cannot think of any foods that I hate, spicy foods do bother my stomach(heartburn).
2.- I enjoy freshly squeezed lemonade, I also enjoy hot tea, coffee with little sugar and a bold taste. I cannot stand root beer.
3.- I feel like I do not get rest from my sleep. I dream almost every day, and when the alarm goes off, I hot snooze may times before getting up.
4.- I rather it be cold all the time, hot weather makes me uncomfortable because I perspire extremely easy.
5.- I don't think there is something that bothers me about the environment.
6.- My energy levels are usually low, I take a multivitamin in the morning that contains several B vitamins and that helps. Also, as the day goes by, I take a vitamin C that also has B vitamins.
7.- My sexual energy level is high, I would like to have sex on a daily basis, but, I don't. I have not been with a girl in about three months and I do masturbate maybe twice a week or sometimes more. I do get very tired after, that is the reason I try not to do it much.
8.- N/A.
9.-
a) Big guy in the heavy side. 6'01' and 280lb.
b) Brown colour, I am Hispanic.
c) Pretty much all the body, and I do perspire easily.
d) I cannot go a day without showering, in summer time I will sometimes shower twice a day because I feel dirty and that I smell.
e) Colour of stool most of the time is light brown. Urine is usually light to darker yellow, it depends if I drink enough water. Colour of sweat, I have never noticed a colour, it is always transparent.
10.- I am not allergic to any medications.
Please let me know if you need more information, and really appreciate your help.
Thank You again.
JHGDL last decade
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
Ok it is important to understand with homoeopathy, that the story of what happened to you is of little use to us. It is the specific individual experience in those events that matters. The 'why' doesn't really help decid on a remedy, whereas the 'what', the 'when', and the 'how' is much more important.
So with that in mind, I now need you to describe to me how you experience the following things:
Loss of self-confidence
Depressed
Growing old alone
Nobody wants me
Continuing to think until you go crazy
Hurt by being cheated on
Thinking of my defects
Also, can you detail any dreams you have that are reoccurring, or any images that reappear in dreams often.
Did you have any reoccurring dreams in childhood?
What kind of child were you? What was your character like? What problems did you have?
Remember, don't tell me what happened. Tell me what it felt like when it happened, even if that doesn't make sense or seem purely logical (that is in fact better if it does not).
[message edited by brisbanehomoeopath on Mon, 06 Feb 2012 01:56:18 GMT]
So with that in mind, I now need you to describe to me how you experience the following things:
Loss of self-confidence
Depressed
Growing old alone
Nobody wants me
Continuing to think until you go crazy
Hurt by being cheated on
Thinking of my defects
Also, can you detail any dreams you have that are reoccurring, or any images that reappear in dreams often.
Did you have any reoccurring dreams in childhood?
What kind of child were you? What was your character like? What problems did you have?
Remember, don't tell me what happened. Tell me what it felt like when it happened, even if that doesn't make sense or seem purely logical (that is in fact better if it does not).
[message edited by brisbanehomoeopath on Mon, 06 Feb 2012 01:56:18 GMT]
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
Hi brisbanehomoeopath,
I will try to explain more in depth based on what you asked.
Loss of self-confidence:
I believe I started losing my self-confidence when I started to gain weight and I started to gain weight right after my divorce. I was able to speak to girls a lot easier before, I believe this is when I notice I have lost some self-confidence. As far as been able to excel in other things, I have not noticed any change.
Depressed:
I get more depressed when it gets dark earlier. I say this because, as soon as I leave work and if it is already dark, I just want to go home and no do nothing else.
When I attend a social gathering and my group of friends are there with their couples, it bugs me that I am the only one that is there by myself.
I get depressed when I watch romantic movies, I start thinking, will that ever happen to me.
Growing old alone:
I have an older friend that is 75 years old and never had kids. He has had a few health problems lately and I this when I start thinking, will I grow alone? will there be anyone to help me when I grow old? How am I going to find someone if I cannot talk to girls anymore?
Nobody wants me:
I have lost confidence when speaking to girls, so in my subconscious, I have already made my self not interesting. I was in a super bowl party today and I met a girl that was very cute and wanted to go talk to her more and in my head I was already thinking, why will this cute girl would want to talk to me. I am out of shape and maybe to old for her.
Continuing to think until I go crazy:
There are many things that make me feel like this, going back to the girl at the party, the fact that I did not go and start a conversation with the girl, bugs me a lot and I have been thinking about it to much.
When I get upset about something that someone said that I disagreed and did not speak at the moment, that bugs me and do not let go of it that easy.
Hurt by being cheated on:
It hurts a lot just to talk about it, I guess that would be when it hurts. It also hurts when I hear her name, or I see her. Unfortunately, I think she lives in the area because I have seen her a few times.
Every time that her name comes up in a conversation or someone speaks about my wedding, that is when it hurts and also it takes a couple days to go away.
Thinking of my defects:
Like I mentioned above, when I was going to go talk to this girl at the party and all I could think about was that: why would this girl would want to talk to me, a fat old man.
About my dreams:
I do not remember many dreams, except a few. Usually when I dream with my ex-wife, I can remember those dreams. And most are about being back together with her, and then I wake up and realize it is a dream.
Also other dreams are about something that I cannot accomplish, like not being able to return to a place.
When I was a kid, I cannot remember of any reoccurring dream
I was always a good kid and obeyed my elders.
I just to enjoy spending time with my friends after school.
I was a straight A student until I started Jr. High, I started to not care about turning in homework and about my grades. Eventually in High school I went back to doing my homework and caring my grades.
I hope this is more in line with the information that you need, please let me know if you need more information.
Thank You,
Jose
I will try to explain more in depth based on what you asked.
Loss of self-confidence:
I believe I started losing my self-confidence when I started to gain weight and I started to gain weight right after my divorce. I was able to speak to girls a lot easier before, I believe this is when I notice I have lost some self-confidence. As far as been able to excel in other things, I have not noticed any change.
Depressed:
I get more depressed when it gets dark earlier. I say this because, as soon as I leave work and if it is already dark, I just want to go home and no do nothing else.
When I attend a social gathering and my group of friends are there with their couples, it bugs me that I am the only one that is there by myself.
I get depressed when I watch romantic movies, I start thinking, will that ever happen to me.
Growing old alone:
I have an older friend that is 75 years old and never had kids. He has had a few health problems lately and I this when I start thinking, will I grow alone? will there be anyone to help me when I grow old? How am I going to find someone if I cannot talk to girls anymore?
Nobody wants me:
I have lost confidence when speaking to girls, so in my subconscious, I have already made my self not interesting. I was in a super bowl party today and I met a girl that was very cute and wanted to go talk to her more and in my head I was already thinking, why will this cute girl would want to talk to me. I am out of shape and maybe to old for her.
Continuing to think until I go crazy:
There are many things that make me feel like this, going back to the girl at the party, the fact that I did not go and start a conversation with the girl, bugs me a lot and I have been thinking about it to much.
When I get upset about something that someone said that I disagreed and did not speak at the moment, that bugs me and do not let go of it that easy.
Hurt by being cheated on:
It hurts a lot just to talk about it, I guess that would be when it hurts. It also hurts when I hear her name, or I see her. Unfortunately, I think she lives in the area because I have seen her a few times.
Every time that her name comes up in a conversation or someone speaks about my wedding, that is when it hurts and also it takes a couple days to go away.
Thinking of my defects:
Like I mentioned above, when I was going to go talk to this girl at the party and all I could think about was that: why would this girl would want to talk to me, a fat old man.
About my dreams:
I do not remember many dreams, except a few. Usually when I dream with my ex-wife, I can remember those dreams. And most are about being back together with her, and then I wake up and realize it is a dream.
Also other dreams are about something that I cannot accomplish, like not being able to return to a place.
When I was a kid, I cannot remember of any reoccurring dream
I was always a good kid and obeyed my elders.
I just to enjoy spending time with my friends after school.
I was a straight A student until I started Jr. High, I started to not care about turning in homework and about my grades. Eventually in High school I went back to doing my homework and caring my grades.
I hope this is more in line with the information that you need, please let me know if you need more information.
Thank You,
Jose
JHGDL last decade
Ok we need to clarify how I need you to give your symptoms/problems to me. This is no fault on your part, it is just a matter of education and experience (as a homoeopathic patient).
I know that the way we normally have conversations, and typically answer questions with doctors or other health professionals, is to just recount facts. This is not helpful for homoeopathy. Homoeopathy is more like counselling, in that we want to know how you felt, what it was like.
So for self confidence, what is it you have lost, how does it affect your life, what is it like to have lost confidence, how much have you lost, what do you do to get it back, can you get it back, what situations do you notice it in? What exactly is confidence?
What exactly do you feel like when you are depressed? What is depression? What do you do to make yourself feel happier? What can happen to make you feel less happy?
What does it mean to grow old alone? What does it feel like? What is the problem with this?
I know that the way we normally have conversations, and typically answer questions with doctors or other health professionals, is to just recount facts. This is not helpful for homoeopathy. Homoeopathy is more like counselling, in that we want to know how you felt, what it was like.
So for self confidence, what is it you have lost, how does it affect your life, what is it like to have lost confidence, how much have you lost, what do you do to get it back, can you get it back, what situations do you notice it in? What exactly is confidence?
What exactly do you feel like when you are depressed? What is depression? What do you do to make yourself feel happier? What can happen to make you feel less happy?
What does it mean to grow old alone? What does it feel like? What is the problem with this?
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
Thank you for the explanation, I now understand better what you need from me.
Loss of self-confidence:
I can tell you this only happens as far as the talking to girls and starting a new relationship. I feel like the girls would not want to speak to me or even consider anything else. Even though I consider myself a hansom man, I start thinking of my defects because I have gain weight and consider myself out of shape. And also feel like, when or if I start a new relationship, is it going to be the same? is it going to happen again? So, I guess I have my guards up and am afraid of starring a new relationship.
Depressed:
I feel alone like, I make no difference. I feel like not doing anything, like just watching TV, I am constantly tired and feel like I do not get enough rest. I feel like being in a stable relationship but afraid to approach girls and again ask myself is it going to happen again. I have constantly felt like, what am I doing in this planet? but then I start thinking about my Mom and Dad, I know they need me and that is about the only thing that motivates me.
Growing old alone:
I feel like I will grow old alone because I cannot start a new relationship or because I am afraid. Also fear that, when I am old and alone, I will not have anyone next to me to help with any problem.
The problem I see with growing old alone is: I have an older friend that has lost his wife, never had kids and he has had many health problems lately. I have been the only one helping right now. He always tells me, you should have kids and raise them with love, and hopefully when you are old like me, they will keep you young.
Hurt by being cheated on:
It feel like I was never bad to her, I did not deserve what she did to me. I feel that even when I always I treated her well and with respect, and we had a great relationship or at least that was what I believed, she hurt me. Basically feel like life is unfair.
Thinking of my defects:
It makes me feel like a lesser of a person. This only applies when trying to start a conversation with girls, so far, I do not think it has affected me in other parts of my life.
I do not believe I have mentioned a couple things, I get colds easily and very frequently when it is cold, because of that I also get cold sores frequently. Also I have been told that I snore a lot lately. I do not know if it makes a difference, but I wanted to mention it.
Again I would like to thank you for spending all this time.
Loss of self-confidence:
I can tell you this only happens as far as the talking to girls and starting a new relationship. I feel like the girls would not want to speak to me or even consider anything else. Even though I consider myself a hansom man, I start thinking of my defects because I have gain weight and consider myself out of shape. And also feel like, when or if I start a new relationship, is it going to be the same? is it going to happen again? So, I guess I have my guards up and am afraid of starring a new relationship.
Depressed:
I feel alone like, I make no difference. I feel like not doing anything, like just watching TV, I am constantly tired and feel like I do not get enough rest. I feel like being in a stable relationship but afraid to approach girls and again ask myself is it going to happen again. I have constantly felt like, what am I doing in this planet? but then I start thinking about my Mom and Dad, I know they need me and that is about the only thing that motivates me.
Growing old alone:
I feel like I will grow old alone because I cannot start a new relationship or because I am afraid. Also fear that, when I am old and alone, I will not have anyone next to me to help with any problem.
The problem I see with growing old alone is: I have an older friend that has lost his wife, never had kids and he has had many health problems lately. I have been the only one helping right now. He always tells me, you should have kids and raise them with love, and hopefully when you are old like me, they will keep you young.
Hurt by being cheated on:
It feel like I was never bad to her, I did not deserve what she did to me. I feel that even when I always I treated her well and with respect, and we had a great relationship or at least that was what I believed, she hurt me. Basically feel like life is unfair.
Thinking of my defects:
It makes me feel like a lesser of a person. This only applies when trying to start a conversation with girls, so far, I do not think it has affected me in other parts of my life.
I do not believe I have mentioned a couple things, I get colds easily and very frequently when it is cold, because of that I also get cold sores frequently. Also I have been told that I snore a lot lately. I do not know if it makes a difference, but I wanted to mention it.
Again I would like to thank you for spending all this time.
JHGDL last decade
So the issue here is relationships, the forming of relationships. There is some defect, some problem in you, that stops you from developing a relationship with a girl. It is the start of a relationship where you get stuck, or perhaps just before that point. You don't even try, just watch TV. It is a kind of passive attitude to relationships, just sitting and waiting in a passive and somewhat fearful state.
There is a second issue that seems intertwined with the first, that without a relationship you will have no-one to help you when you are old. You could have health problems and if you are alone with no relationship this will cause problems.
Overall this appears to require a mineral remedy. The making and breaking of relationships is a primary indicator for this kingdom.
What is the exact issue though, that will lead us to the particular mineral that will help?
Describe more on being alone.
Describe more on being at home versus being out.
What would happen if you were alone and old?
What exactly happens when you try to start up a conversation with a girl?
What are you afraid of happening if you started a relationship?
What exactly is a 'stable' relationship? What is stability and why is it so important?
What is the experience of being hurt by someone who cheats on you?
Exactly what defects do you see that interfere with starting a relationship?
There is a second issue that seems intertwined with the first, that without a relationship you will have no-one to help you when you are old. You could have health problems and if you are alone with no relationship this will cause problems.
Overall this appears to require a mineral remedy. The making and breaking of relationships is a primary indicator for this kingdom.
What is the exact issue though, that will lead us to the particular mineral that will help?
Describe more on being alone.
Describe more on being at home versus being out.
What would happen if you were alone and old?
What exactly happens when you try to start up a conversation with a girl?
What are you afraid of happening if you started a relationship?
What exactly is a 'stable' relationship? What is stability and why is it so important?
What is the experience of being hurt by someone who cheats on you?
Exactly what defects do you see that interfere with starting a relationship?
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
Hi brisbanehomoeopath,
Now that you have analyzed what I have written, I think that I have also understood what is happening. I think that there is fear but also I do not want to be alone.
I will explain the fear side, I do not want to end up alone but I also fear what the outcome of the relationship could be. I am afraid of getting hurt again and that also contributes to me having my guards up.
When I am at home, I feel like I am in my comfort zone. I was at a party yesterday, and most of the time I was asking myself why I did I come? And did not have much fun because I felt like I did not fit. I say that because, most everyone was there as a couple. But then again, I would not go speak to the one girl that I liked.
They're a few things that come to my mind when trying to speak to girls, and I guess I am getting ahead of myself. I start thinking, I do not think she is interested, I am old and out of shape. But also I start thinking, if this relationship goes somewhere will she cheat on me? So I immediately stop myself from trying to approach the girl.
I am afraid of getting hurt again and also I would have a hard time trusting her. The getting hurt part is the most important, it has been without a doubt the most traumatic incident of my live.
I think that for me to be able to have kids one day, I would have to be in a stable relationship. With that said not only would I have to love the girl, but also have to trust her. That is the reason that a stable relationship is important for me.
Being cheated on is the most traumatic incident of my live. I had mixed emotions, I wanted to hurt her(I should mention that I did not), but then I realized that I loved her and could not do it. It also did not help that I wanted to workout things but she did not(I told everyone in my family that it was me that did not workout things, of course I was lying). I would ask myself, why did she do it? is it the long hours at the office? is it the fact that I was out on the road about 50% of the time? I would ask myself so many questions. Sometimes i would blame it all on me, I wanted to blame myself so I would not have to have negative feelings towards her.
Even when I consider myself to be a handsome man, first thing that pops into my mind is that I am out of shape. Even when I am only 30(because in the Hispanic community, you are an old man at 28 when you do not have kids), I also think that she wouldn't want to speak to an old man. Those are the two things that pop into my mind.
Thank you again for all your help, please let me know if you need more information.
[message edited by JHGDL on Tue, 07 Feb 2012 01:31:59 GMT]
Now that you have analyzed what I have written, I think that I have also understood what is happening. I think that there is fear but also I do not want to be alone.
I will explain the fear side, I do not want to end up alone but I also fear what the outcome of the relationship could be. I am afraid of getting hurt again and that also contributes to me having my guards up.
When I am at home, I feel like I am in my comfort zone. I was at a party yesterday, and most of the time I was asking myself why I did I come? And did not have much fun because I felt like I did not fit. I say that because, most everyone was there as a couple. But then again, I would not go speak to the one girl that I liked.
They're a few things that come to my mind when trying to speak to girls, and I guess I am getting ahead of myself. I start thinking, I do not think she is interested, I am old and out of shape. But also I start thinking, if this relationship goes somewhere will she cheat on me? So I immediately stop myself from trying to approach the girl.
I am afraid of getting hurt again and also I would have a hard time trusting her. The getting hurt part is the most important, it has been without a doubt the most traumatic incident of my live.
I think that for me to be able to have kids one day, I would have to be in a stable relationship. With that said not only would I have to love the girl, but also have to trust her. That is the reason that a stable relationship is important for me.
Being cheated on is the most traumatic incident of my live. I had mixed emotions, I wanted to hurt her(I should mention that I did not), but then I realized that I loved her and could not do it. It also did not help that I wanted to workout things but she did not(I told everyone in my family that it was me that did not workout things, of course I was lying). I would ask myself, why did she do it? is it the long hours at the office? is it the fact that I was out on the road about 50% of the time? I would ask myself so many questions. Sometimes i would blame it all on me, I wanted to blame myself so I would not have to have negative feelings towards her.
Even when I consider myself to be a handsome man, first thing that pops into my mind is that I am out of shape. Even when I am only 30(because in the Hispanic community, you are an old man at 28 when you do not have kids), I also think that she wouldn't want to speak to an old man. Those are the two things that pop into my mind.
Thank you again for all your help, please let me know if you need more information.
[message edited by JHGDL on Tue, 07 Feb 2012 01:31:59 GMT]
JHGDL last decade
Hi brisbanehomoeopath,
I hope you are good. Have not heard from you, would you please help me.
Thank You,
Jose
I hope you are good. Have not heard from you, would you please help me.
Thank You,
Jose
JHGDL last decade
I am so sorry, I completely lost track of this thread.
I will get back to work on this today. I have clinic all day but will try to find time between clients.
Make sure you bump your thread up regularly, to keep it in my view.
I will get back to work on this today. I have clinic all day but will try to find time between clients.
Make sure you bump your thread up regularly, to keep it in my view.
♡ brisbanehomoeopath last decade
Hi brisbanehomoeopath,
I hope everything is well with you.
I wanted to add something that just happened to me today, I tried to get life insurance. I do not know if I mentioned that I take care of my Mom and Dad, and for that reason, I decided to get life insurance.
Well my agent just called me maybe about an hour ago, and he said that my policy had been rejected because the labs came back with proteinuria.
I feel very upset, specially with myself. It bothers me so much and cannot stand myself right now. I cannot believe that I have let myself go this far, why is these all happening? I feel like it is one thing after another. I should mention that I am very upset with myself, I cannot stress this enough.
Sorry for adding this problem, is there anything I can do to help with the proteinuria problem? is this serious?
Again I would like to thank you for all your help.
Jose
[message edited by JHGDL on Fri, 24 Feb 2012 22:54:09 GMT]
I hope everything is well with you.
I wanted to add something that just happened to me today, I tried to get life insurance. I do not know if I mentioned that I take care of my Mom and Dad, and for that reason, I decided to get life insurance.
Well my agent just called me maybe about an hour ago, and he said that my policy had been rejected because the labs came back with proteinuria.
I feel very upset, specially with myself. It bothers me so much and cannot stand myself right now. I cannot believe that I have let myself go this far, why is these all happening? I feel like it is one thing after another. I should mention that I am very upset with myself, I cannot stress this enough.
Sorry for adding this problem, is there anything I can do to help with the proteinuria problem? is this serious?
Again I would like to thank you for all your help.
Jose
[message edited by JHGDL on Fri, 24 Feb 2012 22:54:09 GMT]
JHGDL last decade
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