Very controversial child

He has been administered by a local Classical homeopath who has been associated with many homeopathy Istitutes over USA.

I had a critical pregnancy, he is IVF child, born in 32 weeks with minimal initial problem. He is with high intelligence, recognizes alphabets by 2 years and doing interlocking puzzle etc. but low social maturity. He is a great lego builder but not following directions ever. He had asthmatic problems since 3.5 years which has been cured with homeopathy treatment before. He was not able to chew solid food until 2.5 years. If you need any other detail, let me know.

I myself takes homeopathy since I was 4 years old, so I have faith and patience. And I saw the magic when it cured my son's asthma.
I do not know he has any psychological disorder or not, because I do not want to have a stigma for such a gifted and talented boy. Although Baryta & Sulphur started to work (I think so far as tantrums are very infrequent and short lived)I have written a lot (everything got mixed up probably) as I am truly checking for alternate medications that matches my son's symptoms.

1. Describe in detail the main problem - appearance, colour, shape etc. What happens, when it happens etc.
Gets to argument with anybody who is against his opinions or put a fire on him. Always look for a sneaky way to revenge, but not terrible revenge, but rather intelligent mischievous way. Gets upset easily, very sensitive to textures (food or cloth: Could not handle chewable food until 2.5 years, I have to always cut tags for any shirt or pants, bad with wool type clothing, prefer cotton), keen sense of odors, especially bad odors. His behavior with people readily depends on how he smells the person (he does not smell physically, but sense the smell). When hit by other kids intentionally or un-intentionally (during sports) gets upset easily and starts tantrums. Not at all a sport person, but bookworm and daydreams (especially repeated study time).
He eats enough in home and mostly healthy food, height is like 8 years old (although he is 6.5), but skinny with good muscles and very strong bones, fair complexion, does not look physically weak, but not interested in sports, easily cold allergy prone and tired easily during sports. In general very jolly and lively appearance until somebody or some situations heat him up.

When did each problem start? What happened around that same time?

Trouble started end of Pre-kindergarten during summer when unstructured play time was more. He used to pull-push other kids, did not injured anybody. A new teacher arrived at the end of kindergarten, she was controlling more, and he was fussing more. It seems punishment; timeout does not work for him at all to improve his behavior. Calm attitude and non controlling but firm request works for him. Only nice talk, care hugging and small reward of appreciation works – that’s all. During structured time he normally does not disturb others, except teachers with too much questions. He goes to Power struggle with any strict teacher.

He has been improved a lot with kids for behavioral therapy in home from not sharing anything to sharing anything to the good kids. But he never slammed the door or hit in home or breaks things in anger or making tantrums in shops for needing something. But he takes silent revenge always, like hiding things, destroyed papers in the trash, splashing water intentionally higher places that he can’t reach to clean, but we have to clean, stealing small things, or complaining to other adults (but never insulted parents in front of everybody)

2. Describe any pains or behaviours associated with the symptoms.
When he runs hyperactively and unstructured pattern, he often coughs. When he is social place he can run for whole day and then feel a pain in stomach, then vomit the food that he intakes. He is vomiting since 3 months almost after any food intake (at least 2-4 times a day), his vomiting abruptly minimized after 5 years.
Describe anything that makes the problem worse ie. position, temperature, food etc. Describe anything that makes the problem better ie. pain is better for cold bathing or at night in bed.
He was never interested taking food during breakfast, so 1 glass of milk and 1 fruit was not enough for a 55 lb kid to survive from morning 9-12 noon, so mood swing was a natural phenomenon in school. One moment he feels hot, second moment he feels cold during Fall-winter-Spring season. His mood gets better with the day mostly after 1:30 PM until nights comes. At night due to heavy energy he does not want to go to bed easily, but not make huge tantrums either. He does not have a habit of watching TV daily. Soft music especially Sanskrit Mantras helps him to calm down easily. Always had 10-11 hours sleep. After Sulphur given, his sleep was better, After Nux Vom, it was almost reduced to 8-9 hours.
He wants his lunch or dinner not hot. Without milk he feels weak, no habit of taking juices, sodas. Even in social occasion, he never goes to other drinks , but water only. Most of the time he does not feel thirst himself, we have to remind him to take water and use bathroom. But he never had accident in school of not going to bathroom on regular interval. It seems he can hold for really long time. At night sometimes even 9 hours.
His first 6 hours sleep always peaceful, last 3-4 hours moves a lot, dreams, but very few times he wakes up, but did not go back to sleep again. Most of the time, he again sleeps with help of calm music or mantra. He sleeps on both sides, always snores, snore increased with lighter sleep. Less sleep, tiredness or empty stomach make him irritable, cranky , bad tempered. But he does not yet understand what is making it.
Characters:
Very stubborn and intelligent so far I remembered since 1.5 to 2 years, he wants everything should be his way, until somebody explains with calm, firm and caring voice (which started after 5 years). Before that if I build a structure for him to play, he will rebuild that by breaking my structure apart. If I read a book to him, he will try his best to read better than me. He always checks the patience limit of an adult, even now. His grand dad is calm; he behaves better with him than his grand mom.
He only calms down with adult’s calm attitude; much disciplined adult makes him do more tantrums. Great respect towards god, priests, monks etc. His reading skill is 5-6th grade, math skill is above 3rd grade and analogy type or visual spatial skills is above 4th grade level, he can read the book upside down, thoroughly and fluently. His writing skill is not matched with his verbal skill. His thoughts are too fast to write everything down what he thoughts or speaks. His handwriting is extremely sloppy, he is trying to catch up persistently that his verbal skill matches his writing, but very lazy to write more and more. He can read 3-4 languages. Very bad at drawing especially detail articulation, but can draw any shape that required for elaboration. He is better with sand, clay structure or craftimng type with paper, pom-poms etc.
Ist Problem: Quite Bossy when dealing with younger age or same age kids, and self-righteous (means if he thinks he knows the right answer, he will go to hell to fight against the teacher and not afraid at all) and very argument prone if needed. He needs explanations for all rules, (even for un-spoken social rules) and questions a lot, but do not follow through 2/3 part direction. Rarely goes to physical fight, until somebody stimulated him, but gets all the blame because of social immaturity. So he marked those kids who are socially matured, aggressive, but can easily save themselves from troubles. Then he started to take mischievous revenge whenever he can and hold that anger inside him until he is not happy with some revenge. If he is blamed for no reason, but could not able to take revenge, then gets stressed out- depressed etc. He does not damage the thing showing direct anger, but first hides it, then damages it if needed. If he hides intentionally and damages happened, he is lying about he whole incident.
2nd Problem: When he is in his own world, he is constantly day dreaming, so much drift thoughts with own created imaginary stories with animals, history facts, science or anything that if I do not threaten him, he will not finish any study (especially repetitive drill type), the threat I disliked to do. If some new theory/learning/experiment comes up, he is the first person to pay attention. But after a while, when detail listening is required, he mostly depends on books rather than teacher’s lecture (shows partly mistrust and disrespect). He is totally visual-spatial learner and not at all a listener.
His kindergarten teacher does not like him because of his high maintenance. He knew 90% of kindergarten before he starts, did not follow any directions without questioning it. This moment teacher appreciated him for his 5th grade level intelligence and spelling skills or creativity; the next moment the teacher hates him for doing his own creative things instead of following her and humiliated his social immaturity up front everybody and punished him mentally emotionally with the help of other kids. The teacher’s inconsistent behavior, lack of patience and strict-ness hurt him, raged him internally, his creativity and openness was suppressed for almost 2 months, he has talking mania about school torture. Bullies stressed him out, time out/punishment, insult and humiliation stressed him out. His all anxiousness is now centered in if he goes back to school, because of his weirdness in social behavior and high knowledge base, he will be target of bullies again. And if the teacher is not patient creative and soft enough to handle him, he will be depressed again.
He loves guided imagery, if I help him imagine nature and associated values or meditation; he is out of stress for 1 hour. Sometimes he goes to his own meditation mode when attacked by older kids or adults if he has personal space available there (which is not possible in school).
He likes music and dance, but gets tired with dance very quickly. He likes soft, especially new age type music than pop or rap type.
He does not go to bath quickly after few request, but seems to be enjoying bath for few minutes. He took bath almost every day, but very short bath. He cannot swim well, but loves being in water or play with water.
Food craving:
Not craved specifically. But likes tortilla, grilled greasy chicken leg, spicy food, all kind of fruits, spicy pickle, milk, yogurt; but not fascinated with burgers, pizza etc.
He likes chocolate, but do not remember to eat often. After “Nux vom 200C” given shows huge sweet craving for one day and more revengeful attitude and excessive hyperactivity. His preference is milk-water which I mentioned before. He does not eat junk food, or drink, even tells us not to eat/drink. He prefers a little warm milk and hand warm food. Dislikes very cold or very hot food.
Weather affects him: Under 60degree F, without protection gets cold within hours. Not always attentive to put jackets.(especially in school where no one checked him). Very hot season he gets hot tempered easily.
Milestones: at 10 months starts crawling, at 13 months started walking without support, around 20 months running (first walk with shoe looked like he always walked with shoe), talked baba-dada etc. around 11 months, but other words took late around 2 years to catch up, but at the same time he recognized all alphabets and can answer any letters randomly, knew color by 2.5, doing interlocking puzzles by 2.5 (matching puzzles he did between 18 months and 2 years) Normal talking and eating starts after 2.5 years and caught up so quickly that around 3.5 he was eating like 5 years old and starts reading new sentences, by 4.5 yaers he was reading short stories, start writing very late and still does not like to write much. He was never fatty after he starts running. Not a big climber, mostly can’t sit in a place for a long until his imaginary pretend play or reading or TV show on science starts.
Bowel habits: Initially first month to 18 months very constipated, (we daily used prune juice, peas and spinach alternatively to help him, colic between 4to 11 months under “Prevacid” treatment. After that regular bowels, not very soft, sometimes pushed hard to get rid of, sometimes normal. Colors are always normal. Never had loose bowels until he visits other country. Only two times stomach flu exactly 2 years and then 3 years.
Socializing: Very outgoing, easily mix up with other kids, but gets into trouble very often with conflict of opinion, bossiness or argumentative attitude or interrupting other or being pushy or not able to continue reciprocal conversation. But when out, loves to play with other kids. But he never tells us by himself that he wants to go out or socialize. It seems like if given a choice between read a new book and meet a new good friend, he will take the first choice. In big social circle his hyperactivity increased more. In small group he behaves better and controlled. His immunity is less, so he had not been exposed much to society until he was 4 yrs. Old. Before that he only used to go small parties infrequently. but always interested to touch to new things even in other’s house. But his tantrums have been reduced a lot and lasted for 1-2 min. only after Baryta carb and Sulphur have given to him for last two months.
Sweating: If he runs, he sweats a lot after a slight running, especially on head. When sleeps, within 1 hours of sleep he sweats at the back of the head frequently. Especially when stressed or raged, after that if he sleeps sweat is normal at the back of the head. It does not have smell or color.
Sleeping: His sleep is 10-11 hours still now after Sulphur. But Nux Vom minimized his sleep for last one week. He sleeps alone with soft music/mantra CDs on, his dad joins him 2-3 hours after he goes to bed. He never had any bedwetting. His first 6 hours sleep always peaceful, last 3-4 hours moves a lot in the bed, dreams, but very few times he wakes up, but did not go back to sleep again. Most of the time, he sleeps back with help of calm music or mantra. He sleeps on both sides, always snores, snore increased with lighter sleep at dawn. Sleeps not on abdomen, mostly on left side. He has vivid dreams, always talks about it. His dreams are mixed with bad and good. If he can rescue himself from bad, he sleeps back. If he can’t save himself in dreams from bad, then it is difficult to put him back to sleep, that happens normally in early morning.
Illness history: He was colic between 4-11 months, (under “prevacid” treatment that he can handle milk well). I mentioned before about his huge vomiting tendency after almost each meal since 3 months to 5 years. Then between 1-3 years he used to have skin rashes in his hands and legs and few parts of the body only during cold season, which was minimized by another allopathic cream type ointment for those winter months. Then when that stopped permanently he started to go to preschool /nursery and easily attacked with cold and cough during cold season, in spring pollen allergy and so much cold symptoms that doctor put him to nasal inhaler on daily basis, “singuliar” daily, and cortisone steroid almost every 1 to 2 months interval. If did not work then amoxicillin. Roughly 4-8 times antibiotic have been given per year which slowly increased from his age 4-6 for ear –throat infections etc.
When he has started “Kali mur” on daily basis, his all asthmatic symptoms run away, he did not touch inhaler, “singuliar” cortisone for almost 11 months now. But his throat infections happened at least 4 times in 2011 before “Baryta Carb” started.
He was always stubborn so far I remember since 2 years, but always extremely intelligent that we appreciated, but his physical hyperactivity got extreme after cold symptoms extended. I was tolerating everything thinking as toddler behavior. But School started to complain for all issues more then me.
Vaccines or drugs impact: During toddler hood until 3-4 yrs. Age, he used to get mild fever, after yearly shots, also after flu vaccines. Flovent (daily inhaler) makes him hyper, I think. Not any major that I noted, probably overlooked a lot, as I was not aware and his pediatrician told me fever could happen, so I did not pay much attention to note down. His tantrums was not more than 15-20min initially, which minimized to 5-10 after asthma medication stopped and Kali Mur started, it reduced to 1-2 min. now when Baryta Carb/Sulpher given.
Animals: He hates flying bugs, likes spiders and butterfly and black ant equally. One time he wants to save a black ant from one of his friend torture in school, he put him gently on a leaf and carried him carefully in his pocket and when he was trying to save him after 2-3 hours, the ant was still have live antennae, but exhausted body. He loves lion and penguins equally. He told me he loves Lion’s strength and Penguins’ tolerance. His current favorite is mythical animal Griffin for strength and Focus. He used to be crazy about dragon few months before, abut after few bad dreams; I slowly removed his dragons toys out of him. He did not fuss much.
Behaving adults or strangers: Very extravert and outgoing, so easily talk to any shop person to help him search for specific thing. We live in apartment, he is helpful for any adult to open the door from him ,if he knows their face. He was never shy. Feel very comfortable with intellectual adult who loves to discuss about history, Geography or Science or psychology. About well adults he goes to their lap till now for close care. He loves to hug tight, loves to hug parents and grand dad.
Family history: His cousin brother in another country has similar type of intelligence, angry socially immature attitude until age 11-12, after that they calms down automatically without any medicine. His that cousin is now particularly very social and well behaved outside, but in home he still has some occasional outburst with parents only. His mom’s side grand mom has diabetes, high blood pressure and arthritis and she is emotionally touchy and gets hot tempered quickly. His dad is hot tempered, has low thyroid and anemia but never had any case of physical outburst, mostly by mouth. His mom’s side grand dad is very calm and centered with lots of bone problems. His father side grandparents passed away long before, one had cerebral attack, but never heard that they were hot tempered. But some of his dad’s brothers’ are very hot tempered.
Pregnancy: Very difficult, with IVF I was carrying twins, the other twins membrane ruptured around 5 months, I was hospitalized since then. I had pregnancy time diabetes, 2/3 times ultra sonogram, was on steroid because of the babies lung development. I was told if I can’t stay calm, they could born too early to die. Finally they were born in eight weeks, but the twin girl did not survive more than 10 min. the reason doc explained not enough lung development. My son ws in emergency care for 21 days, but never had any severe problem, only birth weight was less than 4 lb. He was released of not having serious issue ever and we took good care of him that he grows to 20 lb within 6 months. I used continuous relaxation procedure during those 3 months in hospital and drank lot of water. But I won’t say that I was out of depression because of all that happened to me. But as a very spiritual person, I never touch tobacco or alcohol. I used my will power and faith on God. I don’t recall having any symptoms that created or disappeared. But I had enough IVF treatment related injections on daily basis as well as medications during pregnancy.


So much thanks for your kind help. I want him to be a normal boy.

I can not express enough of my heart-full of thanks to you!!!

Yes, I am planning to buy few supplies within 10-12 days, I will add Corvus corax,200C.

I see some improvement with Nux Vom now, he is slowly getting a lot polite with his grandparents, Although not concentrating in studies. I would like to try the second dose of Nux vom tomorrow and watch one more week.

What dose of Corvus corax,200C. should be given? Is it once a week? Can this interfare with Baryta Carb or Cal Carb? Baryta is for his impusivity and immaturity and Cal Carb for his strusture, stay in task etc.

I although have a full repect for your opinion, but just Another curiosity:
Why not Lycho.. for his oversll oversensitivity mixed with disobediance and defiance?

I am again extending my thanks to you,

I am only getting from UK source, although I am in USA. I will place the order if you suggest me, What amount should I order? 4g, 8g or 14g, means how long do you think he might need that?

Again my sincere thanks to you.

Dear Dr. Kempson,

I want to make sure few things before I place the order.

Last few incidents during friendship group, he was verbally handling conflicts without involving any adults, none of the adults know what happened and did not get into any complicated situation. He just informed me everything just for the sake of openness towards me and as I was checking his improvement.

He is not disobeying his parents and very few times it is just angry eyes for few seconds and then melt down. Even when he was unhappy with his grand-mom due to some misunderstanding, he holds her arm firmly for few seconds and he eventually melted down with tear within 2 minutes of being stubborn.

He is messy, he does not organize anything until I calmly request him to do so, and very absent minded with things, and previous incidents, punishments etc.
He does not brush, does not change dress in the morning or take showers without few requests and after really long time. But he does do everything eventually.

He does not go to power struggle with us, he just ignored it especially with too much nagging. But he is following directions after sometime, he just takes too much time.

He does not steal frequently, it's once in two months and also any small attractive things or small toys even not attractive/shinning, but cute.

His power struggle is only verbal with adults and stays only 1-2 min. for last three months.

I have seen gradual improvement with Sulphur and a lot similarity with Sulphur Character.

Last time when other kids did not accept his way of playing he did not join them, but did not make trouble either. He was just sitting beside them, when interested following them , when not, doing in his own way of playing. he developed very complicated intelligent games that other kids might not understand at all, I know about it well as I played those games with him in few evening. I forgot to mention he is great performer of drama or play or any kind of situations or role play.

His creativity and imagination play the biggest role in his character. He first does his own thing, then follows the teacher or others. The teacher never reported competitive behavior with other kids, also he shows self confidence, never shows off or shows vanity about knowledge or creativity. but actually needs appreciation and acceptance, respect to feel better always, even he knows the job he did is perfectly nice.

Another thing I watched his restless is not physical until he is in a social group, it is mostly with busy preoccupied mind. In social circle, when he is physically active and running, he seems like losing balance of mind -- that is the most important part.

As he is homeschooling this year, I am not in rush of applying strong medicine. During next summer camp, if I start to hear too much problems about follow direction or authoritative problem with other kids, I will reconsider strong treatment.

If thing does not go after his will, previously he used to do a lot fuss and tantrums, now a days he is trying to understand reasonably. His this part of maturity is very low -- rather I would say he is like 3-4 years old when he shows absurdity and unreasonable immature thinking for that Baryta is given, especially plays with younger age toys in the store. In store his attentions is more towards the books made for 1-3 years old and same type of toys until I encouraged his attention towards his own age books or toys.

These are a lot considering factor for deciding about his maturity level, if I did not mention this earlier, I am sorry. He loves to play all day with toys and never let his toys go even they are old and under-age sometimes.


It seems lot like a asymmetrical development (intellectual more, lack of emotional maturity, which actually also like me or my mother, his grand-mom), than ADHD (furious cases).

In my case also social maturity starts after late 20s, and I still do not consider myself socially matured, only not too expressive like my son and my mom is still not socially matured at all when dealing with same aged other ladies. But my mother is lot more emotionally touchy than me.

Please let me know one more time thinking about what I just mentioned here.

If you still think his authoritative nature more relates to intentional rather due to immaturity, I will start your suggested medication in next June.

I like to say that I heartily acknowledged your feedback and my request is still keep in touch. If his behavior does not change or his maturity did not improve, I will go for Animal kingdom remedies.

Sincerely,

mirrorlight

Hi, Dr. Reva V.--- Lot of problems get resolved since I first started to post here in this site.

I posted long before about my 7 years old who is not diagnosed yet, but practically speaking he has high functioning autism (Aspie), on top there is layer of ADHD (I believe).

Since last years homeopathy treatment his syphilic layer has been taken off with baryta carb-Sulfur, right now he is in the process of layering off his tubercular layer (for which he is using coffea cruda for attention and focus issues).

He is getting benefit out of coffea for his inattention-focus problem, but his behavior is not good enough, he gets very agitated when situation is changing or other boys or girls putting him into trouble (as he is almost as Aspie with very high intelligence, but zero social skill).

I tried cypre for behavior issues, it helped on that part, but it brings up lots of ideas and creativity in his brain/mind (that he can't control), so he can't provide objective focus which is must in school.

My question is, can Cypre be given in the afternoon and coffea cruda LM is given before going to bed or late evening?
Can these be continued together?

Dr. Reva V -- I am enthusiastically looking forward to your response, if both can be given in same day?

He got a detoxification with Apis Mel-30 for 2-3 days, it helped some.

But cypre is one of the fittest just like coffea, it is reducing over stimulation of his brain, he is behaviorally better than coffea, but attention wise worse than coffea.