Dr Anuj please help

Hello Dr Anuj,

Thank you very much for your timely reply. I ordered Nux Vomica 200 in liquid. But it seems it’s going to take Another week to reach to me.
I think it will be too late. My head is burning and I am depressed too.

Please advise if I can take Nux Vom 200c in pallets instead? If yes, please advise how many pills and how often.


Thank you so much for your help.

Hello Dr Anuj,

I took the remedies as per your suggestion. Today is the 8th day after completing all the doses. I am much better than before now.
The overwhelmed feelings have subsided by 50%.
My hatred towards my husband subsided by 50-60%. I don’t love him but I don’t hate him like before either. I never loved him. I still want to run away from him though. I still feel there will be less tension if I don’t live with him. But I fear of loneliness, so I don’t have a choice than staying with a person whom I don’t adore or like. But I have a good heart, I don’t want his bad either.
I still think he hasn’t done anything which he was supposed to do as a husband. He wasted his degrees he wasted his valuable time in procrastination. He just pretends he is trying to do something. I know its his choice to become like that. But my fault is “Why do I expect something from him and become frustrated all the time ? “ But the answer is within me as well. I am not Mentally strong enough to lead my life according to my choice. I don’t have confidence on doing something better than what I am doing now. I don’t trust myself because of this mental illness. Even if I think of doing something significant, I always ask myself “What if something goes wrong “. So I don’t try new things. And I am not satisfied with the current Job or situation Either. I feel like I am stuck somewhere and I need to get out.
I fear of anymore bad happenings in my life.
Thank you once again for your help.

Hello Dr Anuj,

How are you ?

I took Sepia 200 c and KALI PHOS 6X for another 7 days as per your advice. I am about 20% more better than last time. But I still don’t love him as a husband. I do not have any respect for him I still don’t trust him for anything. Its just I don’t hate him like before, I guess.

But lately I have been feeling so much irritated with my daughter’s unnecessary demands and tantrums. She is 12 and she demands for a lot of things which I can’t fulfill sometimes. Then she says so many harsh words to me. She says that I AM TOO POOR, I have been poor and I am a bad mom because I couldn’t get what she wanted. She has so high desires at this age because she always wants to copy her rich friends. I am nowhere near rich. My husband doesn’t have any job. I don’t know how Should I handle my daughter and her tantrums. She is growing up with so much of negative thoughts about me. She has become more demanding and ruthless because of the effects of pandemic as well.
I work for 9-10 hrs a day and I get so tired. And on the top I have to deal with the fights between her and her dad. They fight with each other like siblings. They don’t act like a dad and a daughter. My husband always yells at her. He never handles things in a calm way. He commands her in such a way that she abruptly ignores his sayings. Which infuriates him and he slaps her. Its really stressful to handle this all the time.

I still want to go away from all of these tensions and stresses I have been bearing all these years.

I wish I could be more confident and do anything by my own. I am so timid, so hesitant so shy to take any steps for my betterment. I fear of any bad happenings in my life any more. I feel I have had enough. Now NO MORE !! That’s why I am tolerating everything quietly. I feel like my parents pushed me into a deep well from which I can never get out. They just look inside time to time to confirm I am still alive. Specially my mom. I don’t have any hard feelings towards my dad. I love my dad.

Nowadays, I am physically tired as well eventhough I am having Multivitamins and prescription Vitamin D (my doctor recommended from my lab report)

Can it be an aggravation that I am irritated and my head is heavy and feels like squeezed ?

Thank you for your help.
[Edited by depression1 on 2020-10-09 01:28:54]

Hello Dr Anuj,

I couldn’t get Thuja in liquid form, so I ordered it in pills form.
So how many pallets of Thuja 1M should I take once a week and for how many weeks ?

Hello Dr Anuj,

I had been taking Kali Phos 6X (even though I didn’t have Thuja 1m with me) everyday until day before yesterday. I stopped taking it as I thought I was having a strong aggravation: all of a sudden, I was being so weepy and feeling helpless and pathetic for no apparent reasons. I was having a thought that I have become a victim of so many unlucky moments so far. I was remembering all of the bad happenings and unfortunate events of my life and felt like, I was never going to be happy in life. I was really really depressed and I was hating my husband again much much more than before. I blame him for all of my ill fate. I have been thinking this for my entire married life.
The only reason I hate him is he is not providing any financial support to me, he is not securing my and my daughter’s future. Rest of the things I can compromise with him.

I received Thuja 1m day before yesterday so I took a dose of Thuja 1m soon after I stopped taking KP.
I am feeling 20-30 % better than what I was experiencing during the aggravation.

Please suggest, if I have to take Thuja 1m once every week and for how long ?

Thank you for your reply Dr Anuj,

I will take Thuja 1M according to your suggestion.

To tell you more: Since I was like 8-9 years my parents started fighting a lot. My dad lost his business and he was badly sick mentally, he couldn’t work anymore so there was a scarcity of food and shelter. My mom who was illiterate had to handle everything since then. She remained so stressed out with the overwhelming situations. My brother was only 5-6 years then. So my mom tried to handle everything by herself. The environment then was so suffocating. Too much stress, monetary problems, sacrifices of food, poverty etc. so my mom started blaming my dad for all these happenings and for her ill fate.

And now I am having the same situation with a same kind of husband ( even worse).
When I was not married, I used to dream that at least I would be happy after I get married to somebody ( who would be far better than my dad and the financial condition that we had) I was pretty sure that I would get at least a good husband with no financial crisis. ). But after I got married I realized that this person was much more worse than my dad was. He wasn’t hardworking, he was a procrastinator, had too many excuses not to go find a job etc.
Still I patiently waited and hoped that one day he would finish his PHd and find a job then we would have a good family. I waited for long and he never got any jobs nor he tried to do any thing else to have some income. So here again I am poor. He always have dreamt about big things but never ever tried to reach to it. He was never a hard worker nor is he still. He is 55 now and has never had a career.

Next, he used to drink alcohol almost 3 times a week eventhough he had a high blood pressure problems. He never took medication for the treatment, I used to warn him a lot but he never listened to me. And again, he had another surprise for me HE GOT A STROKE last year and paralyzed his right body parts. Here again I was so disheartened as I lost all the hopes of having a good income husband and have a good family life. Still I was sticking with him and helped him recovered. He is 80% recovered now. But I lost all the hopes from him now.

. Now whatever bad things happen to me, I blame on him. Most of the time he is the reason behind it. But still for the sake of marriage I cannot leave him and live a different life. I feel if I leave him, I will be alone (Which is a bad happening) and I fear of any bad happenings in my life anymore.

But recently because of his stupidity, my greencard has been denied. He agreed it was his fault.
I have never been happy with him but still I hesitate to leave all these behind and start a new life. I am so much scared now, I don’t have faith that something good can happen to me. I am just living in a shell trying to save myself from any mishaps. I don’t talk to any of my relatives. I just talk to my friends at work. I love going to work.

Based on all the above things I think I have suppressed anger as you said.
But I am not wrong about my husband. Even his sisters think he is a hopeless person and I should not expect anything from him and I should move on with my
Life. But I don’t know what I am doing. I just don’t want anymore hassles in my life. I am tired of fighting with the bad happenings. I didn’t want my current life becomes same as my mom’s family. So may be that was one of the reasons I don’t want to break my so called family apart, and rather tolerate everything to the extreme.
I am so irritated these days.

1st dose of Thuja 1m gave me a good response. I can’t write more about the effects but I will report you back after my second dose which I just had.

Thank you for listening to me.
[Edited by depression1 on 2020-10-31 01:34:43]

Hello Dr Anuj,

So Sorry, Because of some reasons, I couldn’t check your message earlier and I already took the third dose of Thuja 1M. And just found out about the changed remedies.
I don’t know if that is okay. My apologies

Please read my report from Thuja so far.

I had my third dose of Thuja 1m yesterday evening.

After second dose: I was little more better than before, some other issue came up in the middle of the week and I was upset about it for 2 days but I could calm myself and thought positively to solve the problem. I am less anxious about that big issue too. I am like “ I will cross the bridge once it comes”. Its a very important issue for me.
I felt better than the previous week. My hatred towards my husband had subsided half.

After having the third dose yesterday evening, I am irritable now and am feeling little stressed out and feeling overwhelmed with all the responsibilities. I was yelling at everybody with a sudden frustration as my daughter is not eating well. I think I am having little aggravation of the remedy here. My head is heavy and my nerves are jittery.

I will report you again at the end of the week.

Do you still want me to take staph 200 and Calc Phos 6x or do you want me to wait and watch the reaction of Thuja 1m first ? Please suggest

Thank you for your kind help.

Hello Dr Anuj,

The updates from the last dosage of Thuja 1M.

In the beginning of the dosage, I felt really depressed and gloomy. My head was congested and was heavy. Gradually the depression improved but my irritation and frustration hyped. I have been so much irritated with almost every single thing and all the time. I have been furious with my husband a lot and also irritated with my daughter. And my daughter was saying that I don’t like her anymore( that means I have been being rude to her, shame on me ! ).
I hate my husband again and this time more than before. I don’t think I can ever like him. I always take him as a cause of my ill fate. He is the one who procrastinates, who has excuses for not completing any tasks or not getting any jobs. I hate him and I have good reasons to hate him. Whenever I ask him to do anything he never finishes it correctly and either I have to do that job or I must redo it. This happens in every single thing which stresses me out.
I have been in so much of stress. I always argue with him. He is never a good help for me. I am financially not stable at the moment and I am fearful about my and my daughter’s future. I feel he is a useless person.
I just hate those people who arranged this marriage and made me stuck in this situation where I can’t take any decisions.
I want to run away from this environment but I can’t. Because I think if I run away I will face more difficult challenges ahead which I think I can’t handle anymore. So I am just stuck in these things unwillingly. I don’t have courage to go beyond this environment. I am scared of anymore misfortunes. But I want to be free of any stresses. I want to live happily. I don’t want these people around except my daughter.
My head is so heavy and is burning.

Hello Dr Anuj,

The congestion in my head has subsided by 50% now. I am feeling little better now. I am still irritated but has less suffocated and trapped feeling. My run away feeling has subsided by 50%.
I still don’t like the people involved in arranging my marriage. I still don’t like to talk to any of my relatives. I still don’t wanna socialize.
I am still irritated by my husband’s procrastinating behaviour. I still think my marriage was an opportunity for my good fate but this marriage turned my world upside down and this thought makes me too upset
I know I can’t change my husband’s behaviour that’s why I blame my ill fate. I feel I have to be strong mentally but because of this disorder I can’t.
I don’t want to change the outside world around me and I can’t either. I just want my mind Calm and healthy. This congestion always makes me feel sick.
I am having memory problem and hearing problem as well, most probably due to too much stress.

Please help.

P.S. should I take Staph 200 and Calc Phos 6x now or should I wait for little more ?

Thank you for your help
[Edited by depression1 on 2020-11-24 01:45:38]

Hello Dr Anuj,
Thank you for your reply.

Just to clarify, I haven’t had any doses of Staph 200 and Calc Phos yet. The above mentioned results are from the last dosage of Thuja 1M.

So should I start taking Staph 200 and Calc Phos as you prescribed before ?
I copied and pasted here from above


YOUR MESSAGE:
“
You may have to change the medicine with the new symptoms.

STAPHYSAGRIA 200 and CALC PHOS 6x,five pellets/tablets of each ones a day.

Feedback after every 4 days.” :




I was confused when you said” increase frequency “ in your last message

Please clarify.

And also My daughter is not sleeping well for the last few weeks. She sleeps just 3-4 hours. Can I give her Passiflora Incarnata Mother tincture? How many drops in how much of water ?
She is 12 years old now.
Thank you for your help.
I appreciate it.

Hello Dr Anuj,

I took daily doses of Staph 200 as per your suggestion for 6 days
I was feeling fine till yesterday, but now I am feeling so irritated, my head is congested. I am also having allergies.
Can I stop taking remedy for few days ? I am feeling little uncomfortable ?
Also I was happy yesterday as my husband got a good job offer from a good company. I am hopeful now.
I just wish, he would not say “I couldn’t do the job because it was tough”. I am crossing my fingers.

I am hopeful now that my fate may change now.

As per my daughter, I have ordered the remedy Coffea 200. How many doses of Coffea 200 and Ferrum Phos 6X should I give her for better sleep?

Please suggest !

Thank you.

Hello Dr Anuj,

Thank you for your wishes:
I hope your saying turns out to be true. May he be successful in all he does but in my view, he should be down to earth as well, no matter what the situation is.

Please help me ease my depression right now. It is kind of Urgent! !

I have been so depressed since yesterday. (I don’t know if this was the aggravation from Staph 200 or I have developed some new symptoms) This was before I took a dose of Nux Vom 200 as per your saying.

I thought Nux Vom would help me with my new symptoms as well but it helped me only about 20 % on my sadness. I am still depressed. I am low and down. My head is hurting and is congested. I cried a lot yesterday and I am so low today too. I rarely cry but when I cry I become so depressed.

The reason of my hyped depression is:

I overheard my husband saying something to my daughter. He was arguing with her and was saying “I am not obeying your mom’s say anymore “. He was boasting a lot. He sounded like a boss.
It hurt me a lot when I heard that.

I have felt like somebody cut my wings ( where I was flying freely) and I became a handicapped now. I am feeling so vulnerable and down. Its like somebody ditched me.
My smile went away. I felt like the news of his job opportunity has changed him and now he’s acting so differently. Why did he have to say that ? He was acting as if he was free of something and just don’t care about other things.

I was feeling happy for him and myself about the job he got, until I heard him saying that sentence which hurt me a lot. If a Dad says “I don’t want to obey your mom” infront of a daughter then what kind of lesson will the daughter learn?


Please help me get rid of this depression and my headache.

Thank you for your help.