Errors of Personal Identity

Hello,

I have a case regarding my wife. Wondering if anyone has an idae of possible remedies she can try.

One big blurb about her:

lack of own identity and has bad self image. Has trouble setting boundaries with others. Has been conditioned by her parents to be subservient in a abusive brainwashing way. Like a moth to flame she wants to visit her family but it took a long time for her to realize that they were abusive. she "licks the hand that beats" her. Conditioned to tread on glass because her parents never felt that she did anything good enough. Conditioned in this way to the point that if I (her husband) is not in a good mood or simply busy doing something else, she starts to wonder if I am mad at her: just simply brainwashed into worrying and having anxiety about people not liking her or that she hasn't done the right thing. But they treat her brother well (Asian family). Sort of a Cinderella story. She had started off standing up for herself when she was young, but eventually she was worn down and started believing what they say about her. I believe this issue causes her to be clumsy and she may drop things and the like out of a fear and a lack of calmness or presence of mind. She also seems to worry about my death at times and fears about what she will do. Certainly some insecurities there. She has an incident about 5 years back where she was sexually abused when she was in an altered state after doing some ayahuasca (she doesn't do any drugs anymore) and was not able to stand up for herself at that time. She is generally happy now as we are both meditators, but can become depressed and miserable at her worst. It does it make it hard for her to be fully functioning and happy. Hard for her to face the world and hold a job for instance.

Any ideas of a remedy? Any help much appreciated.

Thanks,

P