Bach Flower Remedies for fear-based insecurity

I would really appreciate your opinion on deciding what remedy would be best suited to treat my 43 year old friend who seems to be suffering a strong sabotaging tendency when it comes to her present intimate relationship. Although she knows the man really cares about her, she cannot stop her mind from producing so-called 'flash-scenarios' which usually involve him betraying or abandoning her in one way or another, subsequently causing them break up and part (as a result, this is their 3rd attempt at the relationship. It's clear to me theres a strong bond between the two of them ,but also in my friend's case at least a terrific fear she may be 'abandoned' by him again).


As far as she's aware, there's absolutely no reason to doubt this man's loyalty nor love. In addition, she says she's been so worried about his leaving that she 'had frozen her own feelings towards him and is therefore quite unable to tell whether she really loves him or is just acting out a part in a make-believe love story that has to have a happy neverending no matter what.'


The man has no idea this is how she feels.


When they are together, she feels 'safe', but this feeling turns into fear (insecurity and doubt) soon after they part. It is only when he gets in touch she finds a short-lived solace.


She is in a long-term recovery from addiction (great control issues she's working on, in her own words). Always very sensitive - a typical Aspen child - she used drugs and alcohol to cope. Now she says it's her reliance on god that is keeping her
fear-free, except when she steps out of her comfort zone (despite plenty of experience and two marriages, this is her first grown-up, chemical-free intimate relationship in her life).

Great problems with teeth and gums, which resulted in multiple tooth-loss and her having to be fitted with a bridge.

Uncharacteristically, she's been suffering from spots on her back and face for the last 6 months.


Her father has committed a suicide (incidentally he was the same age the man she is seeing when they've first met).


She says she longs for freedom of inner peace - and that she would hate to think that her thoughts, doubts, etc, may be somehow costing him his.

She's taking Agrimony Holly, Mimulus, White Chestnut and Beech. I'm also thinking Larch, Impatience, Aspen, Chickory and even Cherry plum... Too many?..
Any thoughts, advice and suggestions would be gratefully received.