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Bed-Wetting - Dear parents...
Dear parents,in my teaching I explain the working of the invisible enegetics, like thoughts and feelings. children have (untill the age of 7) a sense the feel all and see all even if your quarrel was outside the house. so this article is for you
I am a nice person
A lot of parents sigh, I myself am a nice person. I really cant understand how I got a child like that? I have never been the one to waste time, I always have my hands full of work and I demanded the same of my child. I have never pampered him. It is his friends and school who are bad influence. This I know for sure.
Now try looking at the situation from the childs perspective:
1. The childs soul is starved of love; the mother hasnt noticed him, paid him any attention or greeted him with love at lifes doorstep. I emphasize these are the childs stresses. If the mother has the same feelings, how can the child be expected to feel any other way? But the mother still denies her feelings.
2. A child without love makes mistakes easily and, as easily, gets punished for making them by the parents. This causes him to be afraid of his parents and then the fear doing anything at all.
3. The child has an enormous need to be active but his parents insist on telling him to do something, even when he has already started to do it. Parents feel better when they can boss their children around and not pity or pamper them, but raise them to be real go-getters. This attitude causes a child to experience fears, sadness, resistance and defiance towards the compulsion and, worst of all, a feeling of not being loved.
4. The parents tell the children to study, without realizing that the need to learn is the triggering force behind their childs incessant activity. It is domination when the parents compel the child to learn what they think is most suitable for him. A small child is often told, Dont do this, dont go, dont touch etc., instead of Come look, touch, do... Somehow it seems that the parents would find it more comfortable if their child didnt make an interest in anything. A good child doesnt bother its parents. The parents dont pay attention to the childs closing up, turning inwards and losing his wish to take action. And very soon the child will hear, Why dont you do and look, why dont you care? and then the child feels a sad emptiness in his soul that makes him turn away from his parents. He will find another outlet for himself but whether it will actually do him any good is another matter.
5. Parents teach the child to live by their words and not their deeds:
- dont be afraid and are scared themselves,
- dont do this and do things themselves that dont bear the light of the day,
- dont go and take the crooked path themselves,
- dont hurry and are too busy to even finish the sentence.
6. Parents dont understand that the child sees and understands everything. You are small and stupid you have to learn, but I am a grown up, Im wise. A good child caring for his parents with a self-sacrificing love (parents usually dont realize it) believe that the parents so-called wisdom is really the only way and start to live by their standards. A lot of child geniuses have died in childhood because the parents have destroyed their true self. They have made it their property and in a process of reformation called love and education broken the childs spirit in half.
7. The parents dissatisfaction, fear and anger towards everybody who attempts to teach their children (nursery school teachers, teachers, coaches) causes the child to have similar feelings and similar behavior. They start to believe that teachers are stupid, vicious, ill-willed and know nothing about life.
A teacher who has a good heart and a desire to work in this environment can do little else but turn into the person the children (through the eyes of their parents) see, and thats what she finally becomes. And yet, the teacher who seems a perfect angel to one student may seem a perfect bitch to another. The childs attitude attracts the same kind of behavior from the teacher, and who is to say later who started it all. The only way out would be mutual, overall forgiveness.
The parents characteristic traits are handed down and amplified in their children.
Stress has a tendency to petrify in time until finally the stubborn parents and their children find themselves standing face to face like lumps of granite.
The child is the parents reflection in a distorting mirror.
The child needs the truth. Parents who are otherwise good and caring are frightened to tell their child the truth or speak of problems, as they dont want the child to feel bad.
The child is a lesson to the parents and the parents are a lesson to the child.
Fears are waiting to be set free: Forgive your fear. Forgive your inability to express yourself correctly, forgive the thoughts that are still getting in the way.
Then youll be free to come to the same level as the child and tell him, Look, theres something Ive got to talk to you about Then youll find the right way to approach the child, and youll both feel much better afterwards.
The child will surely understand if you are being sincere or just trying to find excuses for yourself, and even in the latter case, he will be perfectly willing to understand if you tell him, Right now it is the only way I know or can do this, but it would make me happy if youd understand that you are not the reason Im worried.
A child wants to be good. A child wants his parents to feel good. Give him this chance early in life. By doing this, youll save yourself a lot of suffering afterwards.
What a child longs for most is love. If theres no other way for him to reach this goal, he will be willing to do it through suffering and disease. This is the way parents create professional patients weak people who fall ill at every unpleasantness, never realizing that this is a form of blackmail to get care, that is, LOVE.
Healing children
When it comes to children, theres no problem whatsoever, even if they cant read. The spirit of a child is pure and sincere. He will get your meaning before you are even through with the sentence. One hardly ever encounters a grown-up with the same level of understanding as a four-year-old. As the diseases of children are a result of wrong thinking of their parents, then often the only obstacle in the way of healing children is their parents. Parents are often so desperately afraid of being guilty that the first thing they do when coming for consultation, is to start accusing the supposedly guilty party, not understanding that I am not trying to put blame on anyone.
Lets take an example:
Bedwetting is caused by a child being frightened of his father. In reality, it is the fear felt by the mother further amplified by the child. I show the child how to talk about his fear. At the same time, the mother and the father, listening on the sidelines, feel insulted. They think that they are being accused of causing the childs illness. When the parents keep denying the cause of the sickness, the childs habit will only grow
worse, instead of getting better. And the parents will become angrier then before. But thats exactly what the child is so afraid of its parents anger. Kidneys belong to the soft tissue of the body and, as such, fall under the mothers energetic influence. Therefore, the mother should seek out and release her personal fears along with every angry feeling she has experienced towards the childs father from time the child was conceived then the childs fear that something might happen to his daddy will cease. When a mother loves her husband nothing will ever happen to him.
The development of a childs life is, by no means, limited by his parents, that is hereditary transmission. Above all, the child is supposed to be dealing with the lessons of his own life. As in school each life has its curriculum, and for each child the subject of his curriculum is his parents. The time has come to begin teaching small children. They recognize and accept valid truths rights away. By teaching our children to trust their inner feelings and to forgive their fears we are making them strong and wise. But it would be better still to learn from your childrens open wisdom and to gather knowledge from it.
A persons health mirrors his life.
It is not possible to cure someone without him changing his way of thinking and beliefs first. Someone else can only provide the teaching; the job has to be done by the person himself. If you are used to others doing all the hard work for you, youll always be waiting for a result that will never come.
Somebody who considers himself too busy to take time for contemplation will remain ill until he realizes which is more important: right and reasonable thinking followed by correct and energy saving action, or running around in circles senselessly, followed by realization that his goals in life have remained unattained and his health is in such a state that it is already too late to start everything anew.
The life of a man is learning. Negativity is the teacher. He who shall fail to learn his lessons has to be ill.
Regards
Dr.Beek
PS: I have posted article on birth stress, maybe something for you to read
Alexthink on 2006-07-19
This is just a forum. Assume posts are not from medical professionals.
By god Beek this is a pretty stern condemnation.
You could at least have suggested Equisetum 6x twice a day for a couple of weeks.
People are human -- forgive them their errors.
You could at least have suggested Equisetum 6x twice a day for a couple of weeks.
People are human -- forgive them their errors.
walkin last decade
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