Dr Saab or other help please!

2.9yr old: temper tantrums & acute symp

***Long post with much background info....need help with acute symptoms listed next to asterisks below and constitutional remedy***

I've been doing so much research on my own lately and I'm overwhelmed and desperately just want the well-being of my child in this illness and overall :)

My son is 2.9 years old. He is my only child. He is very sensitive and n tune with other people's feelings about him. Does not like to be criticized or told he did something wrong. He does not like anyone to be disappointed in him, upset or frustrated. He can sense it and will say 'I do not want you to do that' or he will cry or throw a fit.

He is exceptionally smart for his age and very loving, extremely social, strong vocabulary and understanding and ability to communicate, amazing memory for facts, experiences, people, and names and understanding of concepts.

He is generally happy and is also highly energetic. Even if he is sitting down playing trains, he is pushing his feet into something. Same at the table if he is eating, he is kicking off his shoes. He loves to sing and listen to music most of time. But sometimes he will say 'I do not want it, turn it off.' He also asks for speciifc songs and in two different languages. Loves musical instruments particularly drum, piano and guitar which he is graceful with while playing. He can also play harmonica pretty well.
Loves to paint and color. Enjoys being creative and reading and telling us stories he creates or blends together. He tells us jokes.

Loves water (pool/ocean) and has no fear of it as long as I am there. Doesn't ever want to wear floaties. He's a great traveller since he was 13 months old, prior to that he could not bare his car seat until 8 months. He loves new experiences and people.

Foods: He loves chicken noodle soup, mushroom and barley soup, mushrooms, chicken, beef, lamb, beans, eggs, broccoli, brussel sprouts, apples, cranberries, pistachios, regular and smoked salmon, berries, potatoes (roasted in oven like French fries) ice cream, diluted juice of any kind. On/off relationship with milk and cheese.He asks for sweets but rarely takes more than a bite or two. Does not care for sandwiches and pizza and chicken nuggets etc.

Animals: He loves dogs and has no fear of them. He likes most animals with no fear. He is very gentle with the animals.

He loves to be outside and drive cars and trains around on his hands and knees.

Health: He is often ill with upper respiratory cold. No vaccine, No antibiotics. Very good organic diet. He's had croup, something resembling whooping cough (when a baby and at 12 months), also had bouts of diarrhea and he most often has a nasal discharge that starts clear, turns creamy and then turns thick yellow and sometimes gets gluey/crusty. He rarely seems to be 100% well. But he handles illness really well. He does not complain. He likes to be held but will also go about playing as usual.

****Acute concern**** Our whole family had a bout of bronchitis recently and we recovered mostly well, but he has been sick for more than 6 weeks. Sometimes getting better but mostly adding new symptoms as others disappear. Now he has think yellow mucus conjunctivitis coming out of both eyes as well that followed the onset of diarrhea 2 days ago. Just seems like this latest illness keeps getting new symptoms. I have tried to treat homeopathically myself with little success.

More background:
Back to his behavior: In Sept (it is possible it got worse with this illness) his toddler room teachers said he had changed and was being uncooperative and hitting and throwing things. He often talks of smashing things. He was being hit by children at this old school and when I would see it he would not hit back. He would just take it and ignore it. But he was scared and told me he did not want those kids in his class. Also, he seemed disenchanted by the toddler work and was being asked to follow some rigid rules.

So he has recently begun attending a Montessori Primary school with mostly older kids (which he loves to learn from and talk to). It has been a hard transition. He was 100% potty trained even thru the night and now he has both kinds of accidents at school. He is hitting, throwing kids and their things to the floor, screaming, running around the class in circles, not obeying the rules.

If we do not do what he wants, he throws things on the floor. And starts crying. He is increasing intrigued by what is scary, what is bad behavior and not allowed. He says 'tell me more about that'. He also like to tell us 'no' to everything and throws a tantrum that is relentless. He wants his way and also he wants to do the opposite of what we say and the opposite of what he knows is right. He knows right versus wrong and can tell us and his friends when we do wrong. He completely understand and has a conscious about when he does wrong. He tells us even if we do not see him. That is usually the first thing he tells me when I pick him up from school, is what he did that was against the rules at school.

Lately if we try reason with him, suggest to take a toy away or offer a prize or suggest a time out as a way to change the behavior we get nowhere except deeper into the tantrum. We cannot sway him at all once he is deep in the tantrum. We find most days that we spend most of our days dealing with these tantrums and his unwillingness to listen, follow simple direction and routines. His mind is always thinking. Always working...thinking of past (even of last year), present and future. He needs to finish what he is doing before he moves on and he needs transition warnings and discussions about the next steps that are coming. Brush teeth, bath time, story and song and off to bed.

He used to bed-share with us since brith and loved to put his hands in my face and mouth. He could never get close enough. As a baby he would cry if he was not on me until he was about 8 months old. Now he sleeps on his own and we all sleep much better. But when he comes to our room in the morning, he lays down and the first thing he does is put his hands in my face/mouth. He gets angry if I do not let him do that.

He often says he wants to run away and he wants out. He also tells us to go away when he doesn't like what we have to say or he will say 'do not say that to me-that is not a word' if he disagrees with us.

Besides the 3 hours a day he went to toddler Montessori last year, I have been a dedicated stay at home mom.

My husband and I do not understand this sudden change in temper and why he is testing us and breaking every rule at home and at school. And we want to help him get healthier and happier and bring more peace into our home. We have tried Cina as a constitutional remedy when he was 15 months. And Tubercilium when he was 2 years old with little success. We worked with physicians over phone/sykpe. I also give him Chamomile and Anise tea (sometimes with Cinnamon) regularly. We cannot afford regular Homeopathic physician visit anymore.
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