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Problem type: Psychological

Dear Doctor,
I am here seeking a good solution to my problems that I am suffering from a long time. I should not waste your time and please grant me to describe my problems.

Name: Elvis
Age: 26 years +
Sex: Male
Region: South Asian

My problem type: Psychological

Other physical problem: Dandruff with itching and eruption on head, Dry hair, and hair fall, lumber pain, Heel pain, Indigestion, penile erection during stool pressure.

Bad habits: Smoking (20+ buds a day), Alcohol (often, once or twice a year), Tea (5-8 cups a day).

Food habit: Normal, like cold drinks but cannot tolerate cold application on the body especially on my back! (my back is too much cold sensitive and even that is why I do not want to take shower).


My main problems description:
My problem relates to sexuality and its being severe. And I want to get rid of this. I understand this sexual feeling from the age of 4-5. One of my relative (Aunt, 4 years older than me) she introduced this feeling to me. I didn’t have sex with her coz I was too little for her! (haha) But she sucked my penis, rubbed her sexual organ with mine. I still can remember that. Then very often she loved to arouse me. And I enjoyed! It was really a exciting feeling on my childhood but now I understand it has changed my life..! Hope I am not wrong.

I started masturbation at the age of 13-14 and continued till 22 to 23!! I confess I did wrong, but it was only my psychological problem. I was a good student but wasn’t so good at History and geography. I hate those. As I started masturbation my brain started to begin dull. Till now I cannot remember my very earlier past but I can remember my childhood. I am shy. I cannot offer any girl directly. But like to see them from the back. And start to dream about her! “Oh she will be very hot on the bed, I would have hardcore sex with her etc..!!” But believe me I do not want to be like this.

Anyway, now the problem comes, I show my penis to girls or women or even to children. But I never expose my identity. I always do this in darkness. I never show my face or even my other physical appearance to expose my identity. I only show my erected penis by using torch light. Why do I do that? Well, I like to see if they enjoy penis. Yes, they enjoy penis especially young girls. I want them to call me for sex. That’s it. This is the main problem.

I cannot establish eye contact. I am frustrated about my future. What would I do? I had a love relation in 2007 but it broke up at 2008. It was a big shock for me! I had sexual intercourse with her a lot of time. She left me and married other. I loved her much.. I am pretty weak now. I use sexual drugs to erect my penis for a long time to have sex, because my temper is too short, even often on the first push. I know it all happens for the abuse of masturbation.
I often feel lonely that no one will be with me. But I have lots of friend. All are male.

I am shy of female from my childhood. When a female guest comes I used to hide in my room in the childhood! Whenever I talk to a woman (whoever she is.. aunt, cousin, friend, teen girl or anyone, it makes me think dirty. I want to think that “I should respect her, but I can’t stop thinking dirty..). My eyes always goes to their breast. And that is why I cannot look to their eyes.. because they would know that my mind is dirty.. I looks down while talking even if it is a man.. (Very disturbing for me…)

Help me.. I do not want to be like this.. I want a very normal life and I have the right to live normally…
[message edited by elvis_asia on Tue, 05 Nov 2013 21:29:34 GMT]
[message edited by elvis_asia on Tue, 05 Nov 2013 23:51:12 GMT]
[message edited by elvis_asia on Tue, 05 Nov 2013 23:58:18 GMT]
 
  elvis_asia on 2013-11-05
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Please answer the below questions giving as much DETAILS as possible. Remember, we don’t know and will never know your identity so be fully truthful when answering these question so that we can help you towards regaining health.

Yes/No/Normal answers are not helpful.

Don't hurry, take your time to reply. I need DETAILS.

To know how to answer these questions please read this case to get an idea http://www.abchomeopathy.com/forum2.php/402668/.

1. Your age & sex

2. Describe your appearance i.e. weight, height, body type

3. What is your main health problem & its symptoms

4. When did this main problem begin

5. Can you relate any event or events which triggered this problem

6. What makes the main problem better

7. What makes it worse

8. What other health problems do you have

9. How do you feel mentally & emotionally (weepy, irritable, restless etc.)

10. Describe your personality (stubborn, easy going, always in a hurry etc.)

11. How do you relax

12. Do you normally fight or flight

13. What animals are you afraid of

14. What situations are you afraid of (heights, closed spaces, ocean etc)

15. What occupies your mind mostly

16. How do you respond to consolation & sympathy

17. Do you want to stay alone or with people

18. How is your sleep

19. Do you have any recurring dreams

20. What type of weather do you like and how it affects your complaints

21. Do you normally feel hot or cold

22. What type of clothes you wear

23. What foods you love

24. What foods you hate

25. What taste you love (sweet, salty, sour, bitter)

26. What taste you hate

27. Do you want to eat indigestible foods (chalk, mud….)

28. How is your thirst

29. Do you have dry lips & mouth

30. Any coating on tongue first thing in the morning

31. Any taste or smell from your mouth first thing in the morning

32. How is your skin

33. Details about your sweat (perspiration)

34. Any problems with ears, nose, chest, throat

35. How is your stool & urine

36. How is your sexual life & desire

37. Males genitals (erection, pain etc.)

38. Females menses details for regularity, flow, clots, discharge other than menses (reply to all these points)

39. What illnesses are running in your family, mother’s side & father’s side & brothers/sisters

40. Are you taking any medicines (allopathic or homeopathic)

41. What homeopathic remedies have you taken in the past (potency, dose, approx. time frame)
 
fitness last decade
1. Your age & sex
Ans: Age: 26
Sex: Male

2. Describe your appearance i.e. weight, height, body type
Ans: Weight: 75 kg
Height: 6 feet
Body type: Normal but Long limbs (hands, legs) are proportionately thinner.

3. What is your main health problem & its symptoms
Ans: Psychological Problem. I always think dirty about women and girls and even of teen girls. Always desires to have sex with them. I shows my erected penis to them to arouse them. I do it in the darkness. I do not show my face. I never exposed my identity to them. I masturbate in front of them. I started it from the age of 18. Now I am 26. I cannot establish eye contact with anyone. It irritates others and as well as me. Whenever I speak to a woman or girl, my eyes always goes to their breast. What is really annoying. That is why I never look to them during talking. I always remain my head downwards. If I cannot establish eye contact with men too.

4. When did this main problem begin
Ans: At the age of 13-14

5. Can you relate any event or events which triggered this problem
Ans: I don’t know what could be the actual reason, but in my childhood when I was 4 or 5 years old then I was abuse by one of my Aunt. She used to arouse me by sucking my genital and touching her sexual organ with mine and from them I started to understand sex or something like that. After that at the age of 12-13 I started masturbation.

6. What makes the main problem better
Ans: When I am in a work.

7. What makes it worse
Ans: When I am all alone. Especially in the night.

8. What other health problems do you have
Ans: Memory is weak. I cannot remember the very earlier past but, I can remember my childhood period. Dandruff, Itching, eruption and hair fall, Lumber pain, oily dark face (but body is flushed red and always hot). Long limbs are thinner. I take shower once in 10-15 days. Cannot tolerate cold water. My back is too sensitive.

9. How do you feel mentally & emotionally (weepy, irritable, restless etc.)
Ans: Often I am strong, often hopeless about my future. I used to blame. Often irritable. Sympathetic. Cannot tolerate others sufferings. It makes my weep. My brain is always active. I never get freshness after waking up in the morning. I have a problem from my childhood that, secretion of saliva during sleep. It wets my pillow. It was pretty regular when I was child and It happens now when I feel too weak but it is pretty strong in my elder sister. Still during sleep her pillow get wet by her saliva. It starts when she was baby. Now she is 27.

10. Describe your personality (stubborn, easy going, always in a hurry etc.)
Ans: Easy going, egoistic, can’t tolerate underestimation. Hate to be ordered and be dominated.

11. How do you relax.
Ans: By smoking cigarettes, talking with friends.

12. Do you normally fight or flight.
Ans: I am health and physically strong but can’t gather courage to fight along. I am afraid of my enemies. I have a lots of friends, but I cannot trust them, because it makes me think that they will never help me on my bad days, they are with me only for their benefits. I am aggressive and protest offence. I talk about law and justice always. I believe in equal distribution.

13. What animals are you afraid of
Ans: I am much much much afraid of snake and centipedes. Even I cannot think of those and cant sleep at night thinking that it could be here and bite me during sleep..

14. What situations are you afraid of (heights, closed spaces, ocean etc)
Ans: I am afraid of crossing bridge. I cannot look down from a high raise building, it creates pressure in my solar plexus.

15. What occupies your mind mostly
Ans: Future (financial security, shelter, thoughts of my mother and only one sister. Where will they go if my father expires? My father will leave nothing for us because he has no property. And when I walk in street, I think all are looking at me. They are thinking that I am a fool. It irritates me a lot. And girls.. All girls, women passing me attracts me sexually. When I walk behind them, it makes think that “Wish I could touch her butt or have sex with her.

16. How do you respond to consolation & sympathy
Ans: Consolation helps me to revive for a while. Actually I always seek supports..

17. Do you want to stay alone or with people.
Ans: I like to stay with group.

18. How is your sleep.
Ans: Very deep. But my time table of daily life is too undisciplined.

19. Do you have any recurring dreams
Ans: No. I see dreams rarely. But often sees known face in dreams.

20. What type of weather do you like and how it affects your complaints
Ans: I like every season. But most of them I like winter. I like rainy season too, but I usually do not go in rain, because much cold water vibrates my whole body until I get warm. But can stay in closed and warm room. It suffocates me. I cannot stay beside the heat of fire, it makes my face much hot, my ears become too hot.

21. Do you normally feel hot or cold
Ans: Hot.

22. What type of clothes you wear.
Ans: Casual cloths.

23. What foods you love
And: Pasta, Cocacola, Burger, beef, ice-cream (but cannot tolerate much cold food, because it crams my right forehead and occiput of my eyes.

24. What foods you hate
Ans: All fish accept Hilsha and shrimp.

25. What taste you love (sweet, salty, sour, bitter)
Ans: Sweet, salty, spicy

26. What taste you hate
Ans: sour

27. Do you want to eat indigestible foods (chalk, mud….)
Ans: no.

28. How is your thirst.
Ans: Not much. I drinks 4 to 5 glass of water a day.

29. Do you have dry lips & mouth.
Ans: no

30. Any coating on tongue first thing in the morning
Ans: Yes, deep white yellow on the root and, all over fade white.

31. Any taste or smell from your mouth first thing in the morning
Ans: No, or if presents, then not much. I brush my teeth once a week.

32. How is your skin.
Ans: Looks dirty. I am 26, but I look like 30.

33. Details about your sweat (perspiration)
Ans: Cold sweats on forehead after meal, during stool.

34. Any problems with ears, nose, chest, throat
Ans: When feel alone then it makes hollow feelings in my solar plexus. Angina pectorals.

35. How is your stool & urine
Ans: Stool soft. After urination, it feels need to stay for a more few minutes to clear inside.

36. How is your sexual life & desire
And: Sexual desire is high, but afraid of it. Because I have a very weak erection and short tempered. I use sexual drugs before sex. They forehead of my penis is cold and black spotted. Penis became thin and small. Scrotum is moistured in the night and at the morning. Have strong smell. Strong penile erection during stool urge.

37. What illnesses are running in your family, mother’s side & father’s side & brothers/sisters.
Ans: My mother is suffering from hypothyroid, high blood pressure, little amount of diabetic problems for several years. She had an operation of her ovary for cystic tumor before 6 years. My father had an heart attack on 2010. His blood pressure is normal. No diabetic problem is seen.

38. Are you taking any medicines (allopathic or homeopathic)
Ans: No
 
elvis_asia last decade
How long did your aunt abuse you and when did she stop.

Do you still meet her, if yes, how do you respond.

If you were initiated into sex so early, why did you start masturbation so late

Do you think about sex all the time or only when you see girls

You mentioned about Angina Pectorals, do you know what it is. What are its symptoms in you.

Do you have circles under your eyes.

How do you feel after smoking

When do you feel your best e.g. at night, morning before office etc.

Are you a messy or organized person

How do you sleep (cover yourself fully etc.)

How do you feel if you have to stand for long time
[message edited by fitness on Wed, 06 Nov 2013 14:58:18 GMT]
 
fitness last decade
Thank you so much for your reply and I greatly appreciate your kind help.
When I was 4-5, then she started that for the first time. After that she tried it twice or thrice. After that I practiced it with one other girl at the same age. Then I grew up in the town. We had a close relation till the age 17. We never had any thing after that on that period. I liked her. But at the age of 18 (my age), she came to our home in the town and provoked me to show her some porn movies. We were free. Well, it was the start again. Then she provoked me to arouse her and I did. It was continued for a month. But we never had sex. But certainly she came opposite to me and it was fatal. After that we have a really miserable relation and even I cannot tolerate her name right now.

But in those years, I already started masturbation. It was pretty hardcore, (e.g. twice or thrice a day.) and continued till the age of 25.

I often feel cramp on the heart region. It remains for 10 to 15 seconds. I have acidity problem. I especially cant tolerate potatoes and hot milk. It provokes the problem to severity. I do not take any medication for that.

No, I do not have any circle around my eyes. I am a good looking man, I look older than my age. I consider one reason behind this is 'Hair fall'. My face skin looks pretty dirty and even more often my relatives have gossip that, 'Elvis (my name) is dirty'.

I have a very good attraction for smoking cigarette. Even, when I have no cigarette left or can't afford to buy then, I steal from my father's pack. Look how dangerous it is!! But after smoking, I feel dizzy and clumsy and tired and it affects my sexual intercourse too. because it increase the sensitivity of my skin and makes it hot.

I feel best 12 am. Because on that time, I can take rest and can pass my own time with myself. I love to be myself when I am all alone. The weather remains dry, cold and a bit windy. I really love it.

I am a bit messy. My room is all messed up. When I am in the mood, then I clean it by myself. I am pretty dirty. I take shower once or maximally twice a week. Actually I am a very busy person but often is quite lazy.

I cannot wear top clothes while sleeping. It makes me uncomfortable. But I use a light bed sheet over my body (not always).

I cannot stand still for a long time. I always move. I move my hands or I walk here and there. Peoples says I am pretty hasty and it is childish compared to my age. I cannot seat or stand for a long time. When I seat for long, it starts pain in my lumber and when I stand for long, it starts pain through my lumber and sole heal.

Doctor, I do not need any remedy to strengthen my sex drive (though it is already weak). But I need to change my mind first. If I cannot change my mind then, these remedies will never give me any benefit (I believe so) Do something for me. I am suffering from this very badly.. I want to be a normal human being. I could not tell these problems to any doctor I met before. But Lastly I found your site and shared my problems anonymously..
[message edited by elvis_asia on Wed, 06 Nov 2013 15:31:58 GMT]
 
elvis_asia last decade
Do you mean that after your age of 4-5 your aunt didn't do anything to you till you were 18?

What do you mean she came opposite to me and it was fatal.

What was going on in the years from 5 to 17.

When did you start masturbation.

Do you think about sex all the time or only when you see girls

Are you a messy or organized person

How do you sleep (cover yourself fully etc.)

How do you feel if you have to stand for long time
 
fitness last decade
yes you are right, doctor.

suddenly she came against to me. She started ill talks about me to my mother. It made me violent. I shouted on her, I insulted her etc. After that she comes to our house to meet my mother when I am not home.

in the years from 5-17, I did masturbation, watched porn, thought about women even I thought about my other aunts (they are my mother's age). I tried to touch their sexual organs (Shame).. etc. In this past years, I was very interested about girls psychology.. How do they feel thinking about sex. I am a good painter. I drew dirty adult pictures to exposed in front of girls room to see how do they feel about that. I always had thought about sex, sex and sex... Even, i tried our maid servant by dropping some naked adult cards on the floor.. when she came to clean the room, she found it and seen it. I noticed it from the outside, Believe, then I was only 15 years old!! Shame...



I started masturbation at the age of 13-14.

But now I have no attraction on porn movies or something like that. Just thought comes, when I see girls or women (What age she is, what class she is, what is her status, it is not important to me)

I hope you wont mind to reload this page. You will get all the answers you asked in the earlier reply. Just check on the bottom of the reply..
 
elvis_asia last decade
I am reviewing your case and will return shortly.
 
fitness last decade
I believe your remedy is Staphysagria 200c.

Please take two doses 12 hrs apart. Just two doses. Not daily.

One dose is one pill. Dissolve the pill under the tongue.

If liquid remedy, put one drop of the remedy in half glass of water, stir and take one tea spoon from it. That’s one dose. Use the same mixture for subsequent doses, if required. Don’t refrigerate the mixture. Put it anywhere covered, away from direct sunlight.

First dose: At night before sleeping.

Second dose: 12 hrs after the first dose.

Report back with changes observed.
 
fitness last decade
Thank you doctor. I am very glad and grateful to you. I hope you would show me the right way to get back a very normal life..
 
elvis_asia last decade
Do I have any food obligation? like cigarette or something?
 
elvis_asia last decade
If you can avoid or at least reduce smoking that would be good.

Don't eat/drink anything new which you have never used before especially if it has strong odor/taste to it for the next week.
 
fitness last decade
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mani_jee last decade

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