Help with 3.5 yr old bedwetting?

We practiced Elimination Communication with both our children and they were out of diapers before they were 2 yrs of age.

My daughter has healthy bowel movements and I believe that she is in touch with her body regarding bowel habits.

When we moved across the country to the ocean 3 months ago in the dead of winter, our dog died, she fell and burnt her arm badly on the woodstove, we are somewhat isolated here and there was much stress adjusting to her father working and being gone from home up to 15 hrs a day, 6 days a week (he has always been a work at home dad). She still asks many times each day when daddy is coming home, and yet freaks out if I am not the one to do bedtime.

Her speach is delayed I beleive. She is difficult to understand and it is getting frustrating for all of us. We taught her sign language (as we did for her brother) as a baby but when her words started to come we assumed they would continue to come. She never made very many noises as a baby, didn't practice with her lips etc. She had 2 bad falls down the basement stairs before she was 1 yr old. We did take her for cranial work when she was 2.5 yrs which did help immensely and she began to try alot and made great progress! Although her brother is 'sensitive' and is always telling her to be quiet and getting angry with her. Since we have moved we could not continue with the cranial work.

She started peeing the bed a few months ago and although it is not every night, it is fairly frequent, sometimes twice. She does have allergies/sensitivies to foods like tomato, pineapple, wheat, dairy, soy etc. and on occasion it can be connected to eating a suspect food like hidden dairy or wheat at a neighbours house or some such thing, but I feel it is definately emotional. So we follow a whole foods lifestyle with lots of organic veggies, organic meat etc.

Her brother is homeschooled and so she and I and her brother spend each day together . She loves to play with him, and do everything that he does, although she does have a temper. Sometimes at night she wakes screaming and asks where he is.

Mostly though she sleeps 10-12 hrs a night, usually on her back or right side, does not like covers on her head. We also continue to bedshare as we are cramped for space here.

She was born at home with her brother present, is non vaccinated and was breastfed until 2yrs of age at which time I had major dental work done and had to wean her.

it's a toss up if I yell at her, as to whether she will get angry or be sad, lately she gets sad or scared.

she rarely cries real tears, lthough she can whine quite a bit.

she was a really easy baby and not much bothered her. She had whooping cough badly at 4 months of age.

Her mother (me) is a worrier and I think I don't let her do enough things that she would liek to do, like climbing after her brother etc.

She loves raw red pepper, cucumber, pples, bananas, mango, most veggies, red meat, but not cabbage. She has broke out in hives twice, the 2nd time 3 months ago was after eating a non organic pineapple. She will drink all different kinds of fresh juiced vegetable juices, but she definatley likes sweet things like maple syrup, honey, dehydrated raw treats etc. and she LOVES bread although even sprouted bread makes her tummy hurt so we never have it.